Help..losing the man of my dreams!

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I am just over 40....involved with someone around 50...finally found the man of my dreams...was somewhat indecisive with him...and now...find out he has been dating someone for a few weeks....I was shocked...and I am totally hurt...I love him deeply...realizing too late what I may have lost....no appetite and no sleep.....think I am losing the man of my future....any ideas..? fight for him? let it go? give him some space? help me out here ladies and gentlemen!..

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Three posibilities:

1. He never was the "man of your dreams." If he is cheating, he is not the man you thought he was, so get over it.

2. Your indecisiveness (spelling?) cost you this man. If he was "the man of your dreams", why were you so indecisive? I think you are being a little dramatic and seeing him how you want to see, not how he actually is.

3. You go on Dr. Phil and work it out.

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Let him go- any man that loves you will not be dating another woman.

Have more respect for yourself and realize you deserve a man that loves only you- not some other whore, too.

Get past him- get out there and find another man- one that just wants to be with you and you alone.

Go on the internet- that's how everyone does it now- it's easy and you'll have hundreds of men asking you out.

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Let him go- any man that loves you will not be dating another woman.

Have more respect for yourself and realize you deserve a man that loves only you- not some other whore, too.

Get past him- get out there and find another man- one that just wants to be with you and you alone.

Go on the internet- that's how everyone does it now- it's easy and you'll have hundreds of men asking you out.

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Said he loved me....but got tired of some of my 'waffling' this summer....and...he went to the internet...found someone he met within 24 hours....i was so shocked..we were still talking daily and seeing one another....he has had sex with her already...and now...says he is confused...thought i was moving on so he did....i love him ...and i am truly the most depressed i have ever been...many things have made me realized how much i love him....now maybe too late....damn

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Oh Honey, it's not you, it's me.

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Your waffling was the problem.

At 50, you learn that life is like a special candy - there is less left after each day, so you have to savour each bit cause it'll be depleted before ya knows it.

He invested time with you and you put him on a shelf. What do you expect?

Have a heart to heart to make sure thatyou both want the same thing. If he comes back to you, forget the other woman and never bring her up again.

If u 2 are not on the same page, get over your addiction and find a new guy.

Someone like me, for instance. http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/wink.gif

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just play with his penis more

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Here's my 2 cents worth... IF you truly believe he's the man of your dreams & you will regret not fighting for this, go to him & tell him you can't imagine life w/o him etc. etc. and don't forget to tell him to dump the inet broad.

However, if this is something that will occur again & again, let him go. I was with "the man of my dreams" for 2 years and he did the same shit to me, started off with chat, went on to (no shit, I'm not lying) Russian brides and ultimately I caught him cheating on me with a woman he got pregnant right after I broke up with him. And he did the same thing... it was somehow my fault that he was doing this. Keep in mind, he didn't do jackshit to save the relationship and in fact he was never interested in sex (w/ me). So the fact that your "waffling" was incentive for him to look elsewhere, doesn't give me great hope. You are entitled to do a bit of decision making and not have your man screw around.

So I guess on second thought, I think the writing is on the wall. Get yourself involved in activities, and hit the gym regularly... no revenge like looking great. Good luck http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/smile.gif

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Get over it..its done, its over. Life goes on. Find someone else and get back to work

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Put a dead rabbit in a pot on his stove. It worked for Glen Close. http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/smile.gif

[Anonymous]

Four simple words....more or al sex...

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simple case of don't know what ya got, till it's gone----hope you learned your lesson.

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I am just over 40....involved with someone around 50...finally found the man of my dreams...was somewhat indecisive with him...and now...find out he has been dating someone for a few weeks....I was shocked...and I am totally hurt...I love him deeply...realizing too late what I may have lost....no appetite and no sleep.....think I am losing the man of my future....any ideas..? fight for him? let it go? give him some space? help me out here ladies and gentlemen!..

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What kind of dreams do you ahve where the guy leaves you for another? Not to sound like a smart ass...that is not my intent at all. But are you hurt because this guy really fulfills your every need and desire, or because you THOUGHT he did and now you are more afraid of losing what he does for you, even though he doesn't do it all for you. I ask this for this reason. If he were all that would you have dragged your feet and made him think you were not interested to begin with? Usually when we do that it is for a reason. Now if the rest of him is pretty fantastic, you still have to answer the what about the other part thing. I have found that when people are indecisive about something, there is a reason. The reason you are second guessing may not be because he is everything, but rather, you may be afraid that he is as good as it gets and you will ahve to live with that. Now you are afraid that you may have to settle for even less.

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Put a dead rabbit in a pot on his stove. It worked for Glen Close. http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/smile.gif

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You might really want to consider the implications of the term "worked for Glenn Close" before you do this. It was right after she put the rabbit on the stove that she ended up taking a nap in the tub full of water, and then getting shot.

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I am just over 40....involved with someone around 50...finally found the man of my dreams...was somewhat indecisive with him...and now...find out he has been dating someone for a few weeks....I was shocked...and I am totally hurt...I love him deeply...realizing too late what I may have lost....no appetite and no sleep.....think I am losing the man of my future....any ideas..? fight for him? let it go? give him some space? help me out here ladies and gentlemen!..

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What kind of dreams do you ahve where the guy leaves you for another? Not to sound like a smart ass...that is not my intent at all. But are you hurt because this guy really fulfills your every need and desire, or because you THOUGHT he did and now you are more afraid of losing what he does for you, even though he doesn't do it all for you. I ask this for this reason. If he were all that would you have dragged your feet and made him think you were not interested to begin with? Usually when we do that it is for a reason. Now if the rest of him is pretty fantastic, you still have to answer the what about the other part thing. I have found that when people are indecisive about something, there is a reason. The reason you are second guessing may not be because he is everything, but rather, you may be afraid that he is as good as it gets and you will ahve to live with that. Now you are afraid that you may have to settle for even less.

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I appreciate everyone's input on this thread...I have told him I want him...no more waffling...I am a person who takes awhile to make up my mind but once I do, I am totally committed...that has always been the way I am...now he tells me he likes this woman he is dating...and will continue to see her...see what happens...shit..it's only been two weeks and that's what he already thinks..she is recently divorced, two younger kids but is very available to him for time and attention....I truly feel like a part of me is gone....and ...it has been a lot of grief...one of you said, 'you don't realize what you have had til it's gone'...I know that and told him that myself. I am a fighter...i don't want to give up...I believe that we really are meant to be...he has been hurt by my lack of attention this summer ...just not sure what I can do now to make him understand..maybe it's all too far gone...am hoping the phrase, "slow and steady will win the race"...I am sitting back with some patience and hope that things will work out as they are intended to...
I am NO Glenn Close and would never behave in that fashion. Will I tell him I love and want him..YES...will I email and call....YES....but I won't interfere in a way that is rude and disrespectful...you guys need to give me some positive thoughts here...and...if I could, I would post his email for you to all send him your words...he needs them...

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I am just over 40....involved with someone around 50...finally found the man of my dreams...was somewhat indecisive with him...and now...find out he has been dating someone for a few weeks....I was shocked...and I am totally hurt...I love him deeply...realizing too late what I may have lost....no appetite and no sleep.....think I am losing the man of my future....any ideas..? fight for him? let it go? give him some space? help me out here ladies and gentlemen!..

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What kind of dreams do you ahve where the guy leaves you for another? Not to sound like a smart ass...that is not my intent at all. But are you hurt because this guy really fulfills your every need and desire, or because you THOUGHT he did and now you are more afraid of losing what he does for you, even though he doesn't do it all for you. I ask this for this reason. If he were all that would you have dragged your feet and made him think you were not interested to begin with? Usually when we do that it is for a reason. Now if the rest of him is pretty fantastic, you still have to answer the what about the other part thing. I have found that when people are indecisive about something, there is a reason. The reason you are second guessing may not be because he is everything, but rather, you may be afraid that he is as good as it gets and you will ahve to live with that. Now you are afraid that you may have to settle for even less.

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I appreciate everyone's input on this thread...I have told him I want him...no more waffling...I am a person who takes awhile to make up my mind but once I do, I am totally committed...that has always been the way I am...now he tells me he likes this woman he is dating...and will continue to see her...see what happens...shit..it's only been two weeks and that's what he already thinks..she is recently divorced, two younger kids but is very available to him for time and attention....I truly feel like a part of me is gone....and ...it has been a lot of grief...one of you said, 'you don't realize what you have had til it's gone'...I know that and told him that myself. I am a fighter...i don't want to give up...I believe that we really are meant to be...he has been hurt by my lack of attention this summer ...just not sure what I can do now to make him understand..maybe it's all too far gone...am hoping the phrase, "slow and steady will win the race"...I am sitting back with some patience and hope that things will work out as they are intended to...
I am NO Glenn Close and would never behave in that fashion. Will I tell him I love and want him..YES...will I email and call....YES....but I won't interfere in a way that is rude and disrespectful...you guys need to give me some positive thoughts here...and...if I could, I would post his email for you to all send him your words...he needs them...

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You are a crazy loser. He dosen't want you. Go on with your life before you lose all of your self respect!

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I did not want some immature GUY to be the last to respond. You are not a crazy loser, you are in the same boat that many of my very attractive, successful female friends are in, myself included.

I am the one who dated the a**hole looking for russian brides... so I have some experience here. Sure, he's intrigued by this new woman because she's SO AVAILABLE. This will begin to suffocate him. If he's never been married and has no kids, I give him two months with his new fling. If he's been married before, maybe a bit longer.
I think this would be a good time for you to draw boundaries for yourself. I would either a) draw the line & tell him you will not sleep with him while he's sleeping with her or b) tell him you are free to see & sleep with others -- and then make him think you are. Plan B has been pretty effective in making them drop the new gal. And please get that idea of "man of your dreams" out of your head... I believe too many of us settle for too much crap because we believe he's "the one". Start believing he may not be the one and see where things go based on that. Good luck. http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/grin.gif

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I did not want some immature GUY to be the last to respond. You are not a crazy loser, you are in the same boat that many of my very attractive, successful female friends are in, myself included.

I am the one who dated the a**hole looking for russian brides... so I have some experience here. Sure, he's intrigued by this new woman because she's SO AVAILABLE. This will begin to suffocate him. If he's never been married and has no kids, I give him two months with his new fling. If he's been married before, maybe a bit longer.
I think this would be a good time for you to draw boundaries for yourself. I would either a) draw the line & tell him you will not sleep with him while he's sleeping with her or b) tell him you are free to see & sleep with others -- and then make him think you are. Plan B has been pretty effective in making them drop the new gal. And please get that idea of "man of your dreams" out of your head... I believe too many of us settle for too much crap because we believe he's "the one". Start believing he may not be the one and see where things go based on that. Good luck. http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/grin.gif

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It was not a guy who wrote that. I should know, it was me! I don't chase men who don't want me. That is a no-brainer.

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I did not want some immature GUY to be the last to respond. You are not a crazy loser, you are in the same boat that many of my very attractive, successful female friends are in, myself included.

I am the one who dated the a**hole looking for russian brides... so I have some experience here. Sure, he's intrigued by this new woman because she's SO AVAILABLE. This will begin to suffocate him. If he's never been married and has no kids, I give him two months with his new fling. If he's been married before, maybe a bit longer.
I think this would be a good time for you to draw boundaries for yourself. I would either a) draw the line & tell him you will not sleep with him while he's sleeping with her or b) tell him you are free to see & sleep with others -- and then make him think you are. Plan B has been pretty effective in making them drop the new gal. And please get that idea of "man of your dreams" out of your head... I believe too many of us settle for too much crap because we believe he's "the one". Start believing he may not be the one and see where things go based on that. Good luck. http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/grin.gif

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Thanks for the ideas...I am taking all of these ideas in...I have not been sleeping with him as of late anyway...and...he won't be with two women at the same time that way, anyhow...
I think it's time to watch and see...I am certainly not going to hold him back from this woman ...he needs to see for himself. I have older kids...she doesnt...he needs to let the 'honeymoon' stage work itself through and then see...
Thanks for the words...the ones that are serious responses are appreciated..

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Sit down and tell him that you are sorry you vacillated, you want him and a commitment. He will say he can't give you one, you will then say you simply can't make further contact with him as you both want different things.

THEN CUT HIM OFF. NO CONTACT. As soon as he realizes he does not like the one he is with, or their first fight, etc., he will be at your doorstep. Bare in mind that he may decide he does like her and not call. But then this is what is meant to be. But if he does, you'll have him by the balls and have leverage. It's a gamble, but if you see him and act supportive he will continue to see both of you and you will look like a fool.

If you must do this, then you need to tell him you are seeing others, whether you do or not. If he thinks you are just waiting, the smell of desperation will cause him to flee. Love is a game. Play well, if not fair.

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I dont know if that last post is from a man or woman...but...best advice yet...I have already told him i would make the commitment..I like your words...I am going to give it a go...try NO communication...then he can really decide without me being around as any emotional support....thanks....will keep you 'posted'....wish me strength...(thinks she may need it)...

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I am just over 40....involved with someone around 50...finally found the man of my dreams...was somewhat indecisive with him...and now...find out he has been dating someone for a few weeks....I was shocked...and I am totally hurt...I love him deeply...realizing too late what I may have lost....no appetite and no sleep.....think I am losing the man of my future....any ideas..? fight for him? let it go? give him some space? help me out here ladies and gentlemen!..

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What kind of dreams do you ahve where the guy leaves you for another? Not to sound like a smart ass...that is not my intent at all. But are you hurt because this guy really fulfills your every need and desire, or because you THOUGHT he did and now you are more afraid of losing what he does for you, even though he doesn't do it all for you. I ask this for this reason. If he were all that would you have dragged your feet and made him think you were not interested to begin with? Usually when we do that it is for a reason. Now if the rest of him is pretty fantastic, you still have to answer the what about the other part thing. I have found that when people are indecisive about something, there is a reason. The reason you are second guessing may not be because he is everything, but rather, you may be afraid that he is as good as it gets and you will ahve to live with that. Now you are afraid that you may have to settle for even less.

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I appreciate everyone's input on this thread...I have told him I want him...no more waffling...I am a person who takes awhile to make up my mind but once I do, I am totally committed...that has always been the way I am...now he tells me he likes this woman he is dating...and will continue to see her...see what happens...shit..it's only been two weeks and that's what he already thinks..she is recently divorced, two younger kids but is very available to him for time and attention....I truly feel like a part of me is gone....and ...it has been a lot of grief...one of you said, 'you don't realize what you have had til it's gone'...I know that and told him that myself. I am a fighter...i don't want to give up...I believe that we really are meant to be...he has been hurt by my lack of attention this summer ...just not sure what I can do now to make him understand..maybe it's all too far gone...am hoping the phrase, "slow and steady will win the race"...I am sitting back with some patience and hope that things will work out as they are intended to...
I am NO Glenn Close and would never behave in that fashion. Will I tell him I love and want him..YES...will I email and call....YES....but I won't interfere in a way that is rude and disrespectful...you guys need to give me some positive thoughts here...and...if I could, I would post his email for you to all send him your words...he needs them...

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Sweetie, re-read this post...I think you might be a bit loco! Give it up, he told you he is not interested! MOVE ON!

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He met the other girl off the internet.....sounds like a real F'in winner!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/crazy.gif

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I dont know if that last post is from a man or woman...but...best advice yet...I have already told him i would make the commitment..I like your words...I am going to give it a go...try NO communication...then he can really decide without me being around as any emotional support....thanks....will keep you 'posted'....wish me strength...(thinks she may need it)...

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You are welcome. You are in a predicament because since you did not want to commit initially, he sensed fear of commitment and moved on. I am a woman single thirties and have been in every situation imaginable when it comes to love.

Not getting to see or talk to you will, indeed, drive him crazy. Don't return calls and never pick up your phone. Tell him you have a date from someone you met on match.com/matchmaker/take your pick the next night. Tell him you put an ad up and lined up several coffee/drink dates from this site as a means of moving on and trying to get over him, then cut the ties. This will kill him. Do it on the phone, and I am sure he will suddenly HAVE to see you. Don't. She won't seem so interesting after that. Nothing is a bigger turn on than a woman who is wanted by other guys. We all want the hot number on the rack everyone else is cooing over. BE that hot number or act as if and you'll have him or any man in the palm of your hands.

Have been dating since 12 and never have been broken up with/stood up, etc. I have turned down two marriage proposals and feel women give their power away too easily. Not that I am any role model, (current relationship is a doozy), but just sharing a few tricks I have learned along the way.

If she is not worth her salt, and most woman aren't, he will be back. But if you communicate in the meanwhile he will learn it is OK to burn both ends and the torture and "indecision" will go on forever.

Trust me on this. If it is meant to be, he'll be back. But make sure to torture him by not returning calls no matter how much you want to. While he is with her he will be thinking about you and the other men. If there are real feelings there, he will be back. But if there are real feelings for this new whore (sorry, but all other women are always a whore, aren't they?) he won't be back. Either way you will win, because you will either have him, or know very soon that he wants the cock whore.

In the meanwhile, do get on every internet site and blind date up a storm. Meet an new person every night just so you are not home obsessing about him. Women rule the roost with internet dating and if you are ven marginally attractive, you will have dozens of responses a day. Heck, tell your indecisive friend you handles on these sites and that you just wanted to be fully honest, as he had to be with you (even sharing the dtails that he already slept with this broad). Though at least he did not try to hide it from you, which means he would be a bad cheater/liar wwhich is good. Please keep posted on here as to what happens. God, I love all this relationship stuff.

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P.S. sorry about above typos, submitted before I was ready, good luck.

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Yes, yes, yes, another mid 30 woman, seen it all, been through it all. Agree with everything previous post said... and ABSOLUTELY put a profile on Match.com, Matchmaker, etc. etc. He will see these and know you are serious. DO NOT ANSWER YOUR PHONE. I have had many men come back after months, calling me, wanting to see me again and frankly very impressed by my not pursuing them. Trust us on this. Do not be available. If it is meant to be, it will be, but he will always respect that you held your own.

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Hey thanks ladies (and gents)....I am going to use all my strength today to try to move on....He is in a lot of control right now which has been making me very hurt and physically sick. I can't keep up like this. Time to let him have his new lady and see what that relationship will do for him....Have appreciated the words of wisdom from all of your past relationships and what worked for all of you...
Today is a new day....sun is shining and I am going to smile despite...
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Hey thanks ladies (and gents)....I am going to use all my strength today to try to move on....He is in a lot of control right now which has been making me very hurt and physically sick. I can't keep up like this. Time to let him have his new lady and see what that relationship will do for him....Have appreciated the words of wisdom from all of your past relationships and what worked for all of you...
Today is a new day....sun is shining and I am going to smile despite...
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Listen to these men!! They know their stuff!! Remember who got Warren Beatty! AB held the goods back and made the cock work for it! http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/grin.gif

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I am a woman single thirties and have been in every situation imaginable when it comes to love.

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<font color="blue"> Well pin a rose on your nose! I think there's a better reason why you are in your 30s and have never been married, your post says it all. And your advice sucks. If the guy's moved on, he won't give a shyte that she's not talking to him...he'll be relieved that she's not. Hot number on the rack? Dating since 12 and never had anybody dump you? Women give power away too easy? Meet a new person every night? Jesus, what a head case; typical manipulative female...the only men you meet are weak. Your 'Sex in the City' philosophies just doesn't cut it in the real world babe. Your ideas are so flawed, I don't even know where to start. </font>

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I agree with the last post. I've met a million girls like you. Real head turners on the outside. Complete bitches on the inside. They foolishly think they have life and men all figured out. Here are my two pennies:

You are welcome. You are in a predicament because since you did not want to commit initially, he sensed fear of commitment and moved on. I am a woman single thirties and have been in every situation imaginable when it comes to love. <font color="#666666"> who hasn't if they are in their 30s and never married, in and of itself this gives you no wisdom, but the fact you mention this says a lot</font>

Not getting to see or talk to you will, indeed, drive him crazy. <font color="#666666">not if he's over her </font> Don't return calls and never pick up your phone. <font color="#666666">the only reason he would be calling is if he thinks he still has an avenue into her pants </font> Tell him you have a date from someone you met on match.com/matchmaker/take your pick the next night. Tell him you put an ad up and lined up several coffee/drink dates from this site as a means of moving on and trying to get over him, then cut the ties. <font color="#666666"> how can she do this? she's not returning calls or picking up the phone, remember? </font> This will kill him. <font color="#666666"> I've had this happen before, I tell them how happy I am for them. works every time </font> Do it on the phone, and I am sure he will suddenly HAVE to see you. Don't. She won't seem so interesting after that. <font color="#666666"> sure she will! she's new, just like you're talking about below </font> Nothing is a bigger turn on than a woman who is wanted by other guys. <font color="#666666"> No, if a guy's got a girl that's half-way decent he already knows the hounds want her too. Any girl that plays that up is vain and a pain in the ass. Definitely not worth it. </font> We all want the hot number on the rack everyone else is cooing over. <font color="#666666"> If you are in your 30s, time is running out, your hot status is ending. better trap that guy before you hit the wall </font> BE that hot number or act as if and you'll have him or any man in the palm of your hands. <font color="#666666"> or most guys will just think you're a stuck up bitch</font>

Have been dating since 12 and never have been broken up with/stood up, etc. <font color="#666666"> says a lot </font> I have turned down two marriage proposals <font color="#666666"> you would hope so by your age </font> and feel women give their power away too easily <font color="#666666">really says a lot about you, and it ain't good </font> . Not that I am any role model, (current relationship is a doozy), but just sharing a few tricks I have learned along the way. <font color="#666666"> so your a hypocrite? </font>

If she is not worth her salt, and most woman aren't <font color="#666666"> finally! a true and valid statement. it's not women's fault though, they have: cosmo, Oprah, shitty fathers, and women like you that guide them as to what a woman should be. So off base, glad my sisters didn't fall prey to this garbage.</font> , he will be back. <font color="#666666"> only for the nookie </font> But if you communicate in the meanwhile he will learn it is OK to burn both ends and the torture and "indecision" will go on forever. <font color="#666666"> And his torture will too. when will this chick move on and leave me alone? </font>

Trust me on this. If it is meant to be, he'll be back <font color="#666666"> wrong. he might be back temporarily to sample the goods if he is between women. There is no "meant" to be, only what we create </font> . But make sure to torture him by not returning calls no matter how much you want to. <font color="#666666"> even if you were correct, and you are not, this really does show your sadistic harpie side doesn't it? torture him? I'll show him!! That'll learn him!! </font> While he is with her he will be thinking about you and the other men. <font color="#666666">no, he will be wondering if she is open to anal or whatever other proclivities he likes in the bedroom </font> If there are real feelings there, he will be back. <font color="#666666"> not necessariy, there is a time to cut bait, with all your wisdom, you should know that </font> But if there are real feelings for this new whore (sorry, but all other women are always a whore, aren't they?) he won't be back. Either way you will win, because you will either have him, or know very soon that he wants the cock whore. <font color="#666666"> again, the whore comments are very telling about your personality. whore because she sleeps with him after 2 weeks? so what? so you wait 6 months? in some cultures and belief systems, you're still a whore. </font>

In the meanwhile, do get on every internet site and blind date up a storm. Meet an new person every night just so you are not home obsessing about him. <font color="#666666"> wow, how great for the date! I really don't think we're compatable, I just wanted the free meal and to forget about the one that got away. Talk about using people! </font> Women rule the roost with internet dating <font color="#666666"> true, for 2 reasons: most women on there are not attractive, so it makes appealing ones stand out (not saying it's right, just true) and 99% of the guys on there are losers and/or married/attached </font> and if you are even marginally attractive, you will have dozens of responses a day. <font color="#666666"> depending on what she writes, she can have more than that, but who cares look at the pickings </font> Heck, tell your indecisive friend your handles on these sites and that you just wanted to be fully honest, as he had to be with you (even sharing the details that he already slept with this broad). <font color="#666666"> again tells a lot about your personality, like vindictiveness</font> Though at least he did not try to hide it from you, which means he would be a bad cheater/liar which is good. Please keep posted on here as to what happens. God, I love all this relationship stuff. <font color="#666666"> typical yenta, giving out bad advice. again, lots to say about your personality </font>

And people wonder why relationships are so difficult? http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/confused.gif

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Have you offered him anal? he'd stay for that!! Yum yum!!

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If the anal does not work, try this. Please an ice cube in each side of your mouth. Then suck him off all the way to the root.

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To whatever loser took the time to highlight and nitpick my reponses. You are either a self hating woman or a woman hating man. I clearly know more about men than you will ever will.

I''ll bet you are divorced or have been dumped many, many times. Who else would take the time to give such bitter responses?

Also, I see no rush for marriage. With the divorce rate approaching 70 percent, all of the taken ones that are on that exciting ferris wheel called marriage will be spit back out again and be single. Women that are worthwhile can settle down at 50 (maybe he'll be 65, but who really cares?)
I don't want children, so i can afford to wait for someone I will be buried next to.

Far from your cliche observations, I love men and love commited relationships. I don't need to be a slave to society like you have been. In life there leaders and there are followers. You are a follower, loser.

Men by nature are not manogamous, and a good portion of the other 30 percent that remain married cheat or wish they were divorced. Hell, look at this site how many threads are on cheating.

You should commend anyone that takes the high road and doesn't contribute to these statistics. But you are on the loser side of the learning curve.

I do not watch Oprah or read other bullshit self help mumbo. My advice to OP was from the heart and based on years of experience. I always have asked my boyfriends why they never broke up with me or left me and they always said that they have never met a woman like me: funny, smart, looks and personality... It sounds too good to be true, and yes looks will fade.

But unlike all of the extreme makeovers living on the planet, I am real and confident. Most women are searching for their daddy, because theirs were worthless. Most women have a poor self concept and take shit from men. I do not.
I am well above the learning curve when it comes to men. I have a great relationship with my father (my parents will celebrate 50 years next year as did BOTH sets of grandparents, can't say that can you child of divorve-loser?

I have an innate understanding of men in general. It is soooo sad that you think that just because someone never settled for mediocrity, that they have nothing to offer. It is better to have high standards and never settle. I do not see a lot of happy marriages out there. I am saddened and disgusted by all of the married docs that hit on me.

In summation, you shouldn't make assumptions and attack someonethat is offering sound advice. Afterall, you are no role model. I never said I was one, just have a good understanding of both sexes.

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Hey, I thought your advice was right on, and agreed with you. As far as the nitpicker, I've seen that f***er do the same to others... don't know why he/she gets a burr up their ass at times, don't worry... no one gives a damn what their quotes are because honestly who the hell would sit and contradict every SINGLE SENTENCE. http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/confused.gif

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Ya know,,,,I agree and disagree with the poster about how to win the man..... I too am a 37 something--never married, no kids---NO, Im not a loser---actually, I think I am the smarter of my peers and friends in that I do not "need" a relationship or marriage to define me. I think that in itself intimidates men! I make my OWN money, pay my own mortgage and buy my own vacations and toys. Ive even had married men friends tell me that I have become "too intimidating to men" because I dont "need" them for anything. The only thing I truly "need" them for, is their companionship and their honesty and sincerity----I really think that freaks LOTS of men out---especially those over 35 and never married.

HOWEVER, I do disagree with the posters "game playing" of the guy in question. At the age I am...I think honesty is the best. That book "The Rules" is overplayed and not productive in 'catching' the man of your dreams. I have read
"The Real Rules" and I think it is much on the mark. First off, if you have to 'play' a guy---then he probably isnt the perfect guy for you....Be honest and state your feelings---If they are not returned--MOVE ON!!!! I am currently struggling with the fact I am attracted to the player type of guys---that is because they make it very easy for us! I need to start looking for the nice guys that are not all about the lines and the smooth moves.

To the OP, MOVE ON!!!! He is not ready for you nor are you ready for him.....Listen to Garth Brooks song Unanswered Prayers and remember this is just a pride thing and look for quality. You will thank yourself and a greater power if things do not work out with this guy.

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To whatever loser took the time to highlight and nitpick my reponses. You are either a self hating woman or a woman hating man. I clearly know more about men than you will ever will.

I''ll bet you are divorced or have been dumped many, many times. Who else would take the time to give such bitter responses?

Also, I see no rush for marriage. With the divorce rate approaching 70 percent, all of the taken ones that are on that exciting ferris wheel called marriage will be spit back out again and be single. Women that are worthwhile can settle down at 50 (maybe he'll be 65, but who really cares?)
I don't want children, so i can afford to wait for someone I will be buried next to.

Far from your cliche observations, I love men and love commited relationships. I don't need to be a slave to society like you have been. In life there leaders and there are followers. You are a follower, loser.

Men by nature are not manogamous, and a good portion of the other 30 percent that remain married cheat or wish they were divorced. Hell, look at this site how many threads are on cheating.

You should commend anyone that takes the high road and doesn't contribute to these statistics. But you are on the loser side of the learning curve.

I do not watch Oprah or read other bullshit self help mumbo. My advice to OP was from the heart and based on years of experience. I always have asked my boyfriends why they never broke up with me or left me and they always said that they have never met a woman like me: funny, smart, looks and personality... It sounds too good to be true, and yes looks will fade.

But unlike all of the extreme makeovers living on the planet, I am real and confident. Most women are searching for their daddy, because theirs were worthless. Most women have a poor self concept and take shit from men. I do not.
I am well above the learning curve when it comes to men. I have a great relationship with my father (my parents will celebrate 50 years next year as did BOTH sets of grandparents, can't say that can you child of divorve-loser?

I have an innate understanding of men in general. It is soooo sad that you think that just because someone never settled for mediocrity, that they have nothing to offer. It is better to have high standards and never settle. I do not see a lot of happy marriages out there. I am saddened and disgusted by all of the married docs that hit on me.

In summation, you shouldn't make assumptions and attack someonethat is offering sound advice. Afterall, you are no role model. I never said I was one, just have a good understanding of both sexes.

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<font color="blue"> C'est Moi! And Hitler thought he was different and above the pack too. Keep fooling yourself. Your advice sucks, which is why I took the time to breathe some common sense into your post and you obviously don't know men as well as you claim. </font>

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Hey, I thought your advice was right on, and agreed with you. As far as the nitpicker, I've seen that f***er do the same to others... don't know why he/she gets a burr up their ass at times, don't worry... no one gives a damn what their quotes are because honestly who the hell would sit and contradict every SINGLE SENTENCE. http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/confused.gif

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<font color="blue">Somebody who gives a shit about false logic dipshit and the reason I post that way is because quizlings like you can't follow a text as it's written. Thus, I put it right there for your rhesus monkey ass. Now hurry up, your short bus is leaving! http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/grin.gif

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Have you offered him anal? he'd stay for that!! Yum yum!!

[/ QUOTE ]Dude, what is it with you and anal, do you have an obsession or are you listening to Howard Stern too much? You are on almost every post talking anal. Why don't you grow up and get a life. I bet first of all you are single, very young and most likely never have tried it. Your posts are absolutely ludicrous (if you know what that word even means) and stupid. A psychiatrist would have a field day with you

[Anonymous]

Original poster here...I am only reading serious replies to this...of which there have been many. I met this 'other' lady today that he is interested in from Match.com...I am unimpressed...I extended my hand to say hello...was positive to her...and she couldnt even look at me or say much...very surreal...I don't think much of the first reaction I got in this...and...I am thinking...he can have her...if that is what he wants...go for it....has been a rough week but it's getting easier....maybe the sex is good with her but she sure doesnt impress me with much else...

thanks for all the words of support encouragement and whatever other contributions have been posted...

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Please, post his email so we can talk some sense into him.

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Please, post his email so we can talk some sense into him. [/quot
You dont know how tempted i am....would love you all to give him some of your opinions...but...who the heck cares...he wants the woman from Scotland...the one whose ex husband is gay and the one with two younger kids....I don't get any of it but I am giving up on trying...I am professional, classy, passionate and engaging...she sure didnt impress me with any of those qualities...oh well...noncompete...ha...

thanks for the support ladies (and men)

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Okay, I'm curious, how the HELL did you meet her? And does she live in Scotland or just from there? And the whole gay husband thing is just asking for psychoanalysis, but please answer the above..... http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/tongue.gif

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Okay, I'm curious, how the HELL did you meet her? And does she live in Scotland or just from there? And the whole gay husband thing is just asking for psychoanalysis, but please answer the above..... http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/tongue.gif

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He met her on match.com...her ex was a doctor ...she has been in the US for 10 years....and hubby a prominent internist...and yes...ex is gay..why the marriage ended..that is what he has gotten himself into...god...what a fucking mess...glad i met her...i was so unimpressed that now i really dont care...love him still but not worth it..I can see that..

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How did you meet her??

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How did you meet her??

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she was at his house today when I went over there...just sitting around...very bizarro

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How did you meet her??

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she was at his house today when I went over there...just sitting around...very bizarro

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WOW... DUMP HIM DUMP HIM DUMP HIM. You will be fine after a few months, but this has all the makings of complete drama &amp; heartache. I would cut him out completely, no calls, no contact and if he came crawling back in a month I wouldn't take him back... No way no how.

[Anonymous]

OP: I think your lover/boyfriend/"man of my dreams" all of a sudden became more interesting to you because SHE came into the picture. If your dream man never met the other woman, would you be going through all this? Or would you have dumped his ass long ago? My freudian psychoanalytical diagnosis: you're in love with love and have a deep desire for male attention because your father was absent from your life. This attention could be negative, positive or inbetween; doesn't matter because attention is attention, no matter how self destructive...much like you seek from this board. http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/cool.gif Any truth or am I FOS?

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OP: I think your lover/boyfriend/"man of my dreams" all of a sudden became more interesting to you because SHE came into the picture. If your dream man never met the other woman, would you be going through all this? Or would you have dumped his ass long ago? My freudian psychoanalytical diagnosis: you're in love with love and have a deep desire for male attention because your father was absent from your life. This attention could be negative, positive or inbetween; doesn't matter because attention is attention, no matter how self destructive...much like you seek from this board. http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/cool.gif Any truth or am I FOS?

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Sorry...way off base...my dad is very much in my life and awesome..and yes...meeting this woman was the straw that broke the camel's back (so to speak)...i love him...and have for a long time...realization comes in many forms..unfortunately most of you are right...I am seeing the man in a different light instead of 'rose colored' glasses...it takes big things to sometimes knock us in the head....wish i had been smarter...but ....what do you do when you love someone...guess, in this case, move ahead...

[Anonymous]

You move ahead, much stronger &amp; wiser, perhaps more jaded ... but with an amazing ability to overcome most things and see things for what they are and appreciate the things you do have in your life.

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You move ahead, much stronger &amp; wiser, perhaps more jaded ... but with an amazing ability to overcome most things and see things for what they are and appreciate the things you do have in your life.

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working on it...still not eating..body has been shut down for about two weeks now...but...moving on up....
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Dude, what is it with you and anal, do you have an obsession or are you listening to Howard Stern too much? You are on almost every post talking anal. Why don't you grow up and get a life. I bet first of all you are single, very young and most likely never have tried it. Your posts are absolutely ludicrous (if you know what that word even means) and stupid. A psychiatrist would have a field day with you

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Thanks for the advice "dude", but I could out think you with 1/16th of my brain cells. For the record, age doesn't mean shit, even morons age as evidenced by you! Also this was my first anal post, so I don't know what the F you're talking about. Have a nice day asshole!

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Dude, what is it with you and anal, do you have an obsession or are you listening to Howard Stern too much? You are on almost every post talking anal. Why don't you grow up and get a life. I bet first of all you are single, very young and most likely never have tried it. Your posts are absolutely ludicrous (if you know what that word even means) and stupid. A psychiatrist would have a field day with you

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Thanks for the advice "dude", but I could out think you with 1/16th of my brain cells. For the record, age doesn't mean shit, even morons age as evidenced by you! Also this was my first anal post, so I don't know what the F you're talking about. Have a nice day asshole!

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STOP IT KEVIN AND ENJOY THE THREAD ITS A GOOD ONE.

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Well..now I have been told that I am psycho...and that the 'stunt' of meeting the 'other lady" is going to cost me ...he won't talk, email, or see me EVER again..nice,huh? Man...she must be some woman!....shit http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/mad.gif

[Anonymous]

He has moved way fast and he will find out what a mess that will be at some point...let him make his mess...and don't bother looking at him when he tells you he did and wants you back....sounds like a real skunk to me....let the Scottish lady have him...it all sounds pretty smelly to me....

[Anonymous]

To the OP... I am almost your age and I can't believe you would want to hang on to a man like that. And he's 50... 10 years older? Why Why Why? Good riddance to the old coot. Who wants to have a relationship with someone who cant be trusted. Havent you been through crap like that in your life already? Move on and date cute younger men and have fun fun fun. That's what I think.

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Original poster here...I am only reading serious replies to this...of which there have been many. I met this 'other' lady today that he is interested in from Match.com...I am unimpressed...I extended my hand to say hello...was positive to her...and she couldnt even look at me or say much...very surreal...I don't think much of the first reaction I got in this...and...I am thinking...he can have her...if that is what he wants...go for it....has been a rough week but it's getting easier....maybe the sex is good with her but she sure doesnt impress me with much else...

thanks for all the words of support encouragement and whatever other contributions have been posted...

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You are 40 years old? I thought people were supposed to be mature at that age. You are still mentally 16.

[Anonymous]

This thread is pathetic and makes women look really neurtic and desparate with all the overanalyzing ... Why have so much of your self-esteem wrapped up in a man ... and don't say you don't or you wouldn't have started this thread and went on and on and on about meaningless details ... MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE.

[Anonymous]

neurtic = neurotic
desparate = desperate

At least we're smarter than most men..... http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/tongue.gif

[Anonymous]

Actually, you should sleep with his friends, do all kinds of kinky stuff and try to make him jealous. Start with me.

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Actually, you should sleep with his friends, do all kinds of kinky stuff and try to make him jealous. Start with me.

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I am not 16...nor do i feel like 16...and i am far more mature than to sleep with his friends....you know...some of you have been very helpful...others...just giving the same ole shit to me that you do others...
This has been a tough time for me...and I am doing the best I can...i am not desperate or neurotic (yes, i can spell)....I am just sad....and I am usually far more upbeat...have I been taken for a loop? probably....not as much experience as many of you, I guess...somewhat naive...guess that is something to poke fun of these days? To those of you who have answered in a more serious fashion...thanks...saw him today for coffee...time will tell...and...I am looking...I am not that dumb...but....for those of you who are romantics....love like that doesnt come around more than a few times in your life....(ok..go ahead and crucify me for that comment, too)

[Anonymous]

To OP - I totally understand how you are feeling. It sucks and there's nothing that I can say or do to take away pain. Go to Amazon.com and check out some books on how to cope with your situation. To the men - Women have the ability to love completely and wholeheartedly. Show a little compassion to the OP, ok?

[Anonymous]

check this out - it may help!

http://www.breakups101.com/side.html

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Actually, you should sleep with his friends, do all kinds of kinky stuff and try to make him jealous. Start with me.

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I am not 16...nor do i feel like 16...and i am far more mature than to sleep with his friends....you know...some of you have been very helpful...others...just giving the same ole shit to me that you do others...
This has been a tough time for me...and I am doing the best I can...i am not desperate or neurotic (yes, i can spell)....I am just sad....and I am usually far more upbeat...have I been taken for a loop? probably....not as much experience as many of you, I guess...somewhat naive...guess that is something to poke fun of these days? To those of you who have answered in a more serious fashion...thanks...saw him today for coffee...time will tell...and...I am looking...I am not that dumb...but....for those of you who are romantics....love like that doesnt come around more than a few times in your life....(ok..go ahead and crucify me for that comment, too)

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"Love like that doesn't come around more than a few times in your life?" I'm going to correct you here..instead of LOVE in the quoted statement insert LUST. You didn't know this guy "really" okay? He made you feel good but don't delude yourself into thinking this was real love. If you can grasp that I think you'll be able to heal allot faster. Real true love is a committment and that guy would have come back or waited for you, love is also a decision and remember you couldn't decide!

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Actually, you should sleep with his friends, do all kinds of kinky stuff and try to make him jealous. Start with me.

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I am not 16...nor do i feel like 16...and i am far more mature than to sleep with his friends....you know...some of you have been very helpful...others...just giving the same ole shit to me that you do others...
This has been a tough time for me...and I am doing the best I can...i am not desperate or neurotic (yes, i can spell)....I am just sad....and I am usually far more upbeat...have I been taken for a loop? probably....not as much experience as many of you, I guess...somewhat naive...guess that is something to poke fun of these days? To those of you who have answered in a more serious fashion...thanks...saw him today for coffee...time will tell...and...I am looking...I am not that dumb...but....for those of you who are romantics....love like that doesnt come around more than a few times in your life....(ok..go ahead and crucify me for that comment, too)

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"Love like that doesn't come around more than a few times in your life?" I'm going to correct you here..instead of LOVE in the quoted statement insert LUST. You didn't know this guy "really" okay? He made you feel good but don't delude yourself into thinking this was real love. If you can grasp that I think you'll be able to heal allot faster. Real true love is a committment and that guy would have come back or waited for you, love is also a decision and remember you couldn't decide!

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I didnt decide because of my children....and....i did make the decision...unfortunately he moved ahead with this match.com website without me knowing it. I know the difference between love and lust...this one is love...the lust part was over a long time into it...we had a great sexual relationship,too, but it isnt the sexual part I NEED to have...it is the emotional side...because of the kids, I was taking some time...making sure...and...to the poster who left me the website...thanks...I joined it..hopefully it will help. To those of you again who have offered real advice, thanks....I look forward to some healing...and ...who knows what will happen as this continues to evolve....it's almost tougher being 43 and not 16....

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You know, I walked away from the man of my dreams after a nine year relationship about three years ago for reasons I won't go into but I was in horrible shape for a few months. Then I met a really nice older man who treated me well but turned out to be a control freak. Then I met a man who was a lot of fun but a 51 year old juvenile delinquent. Then there was the guy 13 years younger than me--good looking but a real fruitcake--then the guy who was into swinging group sex (not for me but he had interesting stories)--then the millionaire businessman who was full of himself--then the man who died and literally went toward the light but came back to life and was determined to make Viagra his own personal vitamin--so many guys who were nice enough but no dice. Then when I was resigned to just dating here or there, along came this wonderful man who I have been dating for almost a year. He is not particularly handsome in the traditional sense but is especially sexy and wildly appealing to me because he is intellectual, spiritual, affectionate, successful, practical, EMPLOYED, and he thinks I am a princess. He has my number (I am FOS on occasion) but he is so secure he doesnt let it get in the way of how he feels about me. I am so incredibly, undeniably woven into his heart and I can't imagine being without him. By the way, we are both OLD--closer to 60 than 50--but are silly in love. Point of all this?? Your life is not over. You will get over it and move on. I did and am so much better off than I was with what I THOUGHT was the man of my dreams.

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The website that someone put the link of...it is great!...went and explored it today...lots of good ideas...and...today....felt the best I have in weeks....still no appetite but enjoyed a LARGE espresso and kept that buzz most of the day...ha...and...told him on the phone today, "good luck with her.....you were right....she is your choice....I wish you the best..." dead silence on the other end of the phone....oh well...give em what they want and then they aren't sure...

anyway..thanks for the website link...it is a great site...will pass it forward....

maybe tonight...first night of sleep,too, in weeks:)

[Anonymous]

Listen you are a strong woman. You do need a man to compelte you. Do something for yourself. Get out of the house, eat something. Do not get all crazy over a man, my goodness in this day and age women have options (toys) for satisfaction. Any woman who loves wholehearted like someone said earlier does not need to be in this business. Some of the most powerful women do not fall to men and no they are not homosexual either. They have learned to use men for what they are worth, money and sex. I expect a little less boo hooing from a 40+ year old pharma rep. Good thing you are not in medical sales.

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You know, I walked away from the man of my dreams after a nine year relationship about three years ago for reasons I won't go into but I was in horrible shape for a few months. Then I met a really nice older man who treated me well but turned out to be a control freak. Then I met a man who was a lot of fun but a 51 year old juvenile delinquent. Then there was the guy 13 years younger than me--good looking but a real fruitcake--then the guy who was into swinging group sex (not for me but he had interesting stories)--then the millionaire businessman who was full of himself--then the man who died and literally went toward the light but came back to life and was determined to make Viagra his own personal vitamin--so many guys who were nice enough but no dice. Then when I was resigned to just dating here or there, along came this wonderful man who I have been dating for almost a year. He is not particularly handsome in the traditional sense but is especially sexy and wildly appealing to me because he is intellectual, spiritual, affectionate, successful, practical, EMPLOYED, and he thinks I am a princess. He has my number (I am FOS on occasion) but he is so secure he doesnt let it get in the way of how he feels about me. I am so incredibly, undeniably woven into his heart and I can't imagine being without him. By the way, we are both OLD--closer to 60 than 50--but are silly in love. Point of all this?? Your life is not over. You will get over it and move on. I did and am so much better off than I was with what I THOUGHT was the man of my dreams.

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Awesome post. LOL about your dating experiences. Enjoy your new beau..he sounds perfect. Have fun &amp; enjoy!

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Listen you are a strong woman. You do need a man to compelte you. Do something for yourself. Get out of the house, eat something. Do not get all crazy over a man, my goodness in this day and age women have options (toys) for satisfaction. Any woman who loves wholehearted like someone said earlier does not need to be in this business. Some of the most powerful women do not fall to men and no they are not homosexual either. They have learned to use men for what they are worth, money and sex. I expect a little less boo hooing from a 40+ year old pharma rep. Good thing you are not in medical sales.

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I have a favorite toy (which will get plenty of use...ha)...and thanks for the smile....you seem like a neat person.....just been a little more down than usual...but the glass is getting half full again..and...I am going out tomorrow with someone, in fact...surely am not THAT dead....I need to remember that i am the one that REALLY counts...:)

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The website that someone put the link of...it is great!...went and explored it today...lots of good ideas...and...today....felt the best I have in weeks....still no appetite but enjoyed a LARGE espresso and kept that buzz most of the day...ha...and...told him on the phone today, "good luck with her.....you were right....she is your choice....I wish you the best..." dead silence on the other end of the phone....oh well...give em what they want and then they aren't sure...

anyway..thanks for the website link...it is a great site...will pass it forward....

maybe tonight...first night of sleep,too, in weeks:)


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Good...now stick to your guns, don't call or return calls, and start dating around...(you probably know who this is responding)

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website link poster here - I'm glad you liked it! Let me know how everything goes. Good Luck!

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website link poster here - I'm glad you liked it! Let me know how everything goes. Good Luck!

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The site is great...i have been doing a lot of reading there...it has been helpful....thanks again...and...sticking to my guns this time....coffee todaywith him...I am the most relaxed I have been in weeks...peaceful. almost...and he can sense that...the ideas the website gave are invaluable...maybe one day this will work out ok? haha....you guys all have a great weekend...I am sure planning on it...:)

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I have also gone to the site you posted for her...great site..thanks for putting it here...valuable words when someone is feeling pretty worthless and/or shitty....hope these men have a little more to think about once the ladies who treat them well are gone...

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Update....

date upcoming with ER doc...I am moving on.......
Sick of being a doormat...and crying over something that aint happening...
Wish me luck....may just be a greatttttt night ahead... http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/smirk.gif

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Make sure you let him f you in the ass! You'll keep him fo sho!! http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/wink.gif http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/tongue.gif http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/grin.gif

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Make sure you let him f you in the ass! You'll keep him fo sho!! http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/wink.gif http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/tongue.gif http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/grin.gif

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Listen...I have done this already...and like it...not that "anal" about stuff...lol....thanks for the advice, though:)

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