Guys: If your wife had an affair... [Archive]

Anonymous

11-26-2004, 04:34 PM

Once, Ten times, it does not matter. How could you keep her if she cheated on you....You just made an excuse for her "Marriage is tough" Fuck that, It is tough but cheating is the last thing in the world. As a guy, she would be gone. Actually, there are studies that show women are WAY more likely to keep there man if he cheats rather than the other way around. Reason being, when a man cheats, its usually purely physical....For a woman to cheat, there is usually some emotional involvement...Yeah I know women, sometimes you just want other dick, for the most part, something is lacking in the relationship. When men do it...we are just acting out natural male mamal instincts. I know this is going to creat a lot of buzz. Our closest species ...the gorillas, monkeys etc. Its one male to protect a group of females. They give them babies in return of protection. Anyway, I am out. Be good and have a great weekend.

Anonymous

11-26-2004, 04:36 PM

drunk and getting laid while out of town is one thing.
a relationship with someone you may know is completely different.
would forgive for item one.
would not forgive for item two.

Anonymous

11-26-2004, 04:57 PM

My wife did have an affair.
She is now my ex-wife.
She figured she had me by the balls b/c she didn't work and we had a young daughter. I struggled with it for a couple of years and she continued to see the guy. I woke up one day and called an attorney. Only had to pay maintenance for one year b/c my attorney told her I would fight for custody and I would drag all of our friends into court that may know about the affair to testify against her. This was after my attorney advised me to not fight for custody b/c i would never get it and it would cost me 20g's. She blinked and agreed to one year. I still have to pay child support but got out a lot cheaper than other people i know. she now alternates between telling me what an asshole i am and then begging me to get back together. i am now engaged to a girl she knows who she always commented on how hot she was. she is hot, she is nice, and she is faithful.
justice comes in many differnent forms.

Anonymous

11-26-2004, 08:28 PM

OK, not to get "Clintonesque" but what constitutes cheating?...penetration?, oral?, hand job...???

Anonymous

11-26-2004, 08:40 PM

Anything physical is considered cheating. Do you want to find out your wife even kissed another guy? I am not saying that you will be madly in love the entire length of a marriage, but you should love and respect the person you married enough to not have any kind of physical relations with someone outside of the marriage. Male or female. We live in a very immature, selfish world where everyone is out for themselves, but there are other people in this world other than yourself. My father cheated on my mother, and it didn't just ruin the marriage, it hurt his children and destroyed a family. Is it really worth it just for a piece of a$$? I've had plenty of a$$ in my lifetime, but I would never do that while married. I'm still young, but I know from experience it's definitely not worth it.

Anonymous

11-26-2004, 09:04 PM

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How would you react? Would you keep her or toss her ass out?

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So, you married a Merck rep huh??

Anonymous

11-26-2004, 10:04 PM

never make a ho a housewife

Anonymous

11-27-2004, 11:01 AM

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If it happened once, I mean with one guy, I probably could forgive her. marriage is tough, people make mistakes, and sometimes good people do bad things. If I found out it was habitual, then I would dump her, concluding that she obviously had some intimacy issues and was not capable of being in a comitted relationship.

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Oh Thank God! Finally a man who has a sense od decency and forgiveness in his heart. A true Man in every meaning of the word.
By the way, I'm going to keep drilling your wife while you are out of town, now that she doesn't have to worry about you burning down the house or anything stupdi like that.

Anonymous

11-27-2004, 11:18 AM

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If it happened once, I mean with one guy, I probably could forgive her. marriage is tough, people make mistakes, and sometimes good people do bad things. If I found out it was habitual, then I would dump her, concluding that she obviously had some intimacy issues and was not capable of being in a comitted relationship.

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Oh Thank God! Finally a man who has a sense od decency and forgiveness in his heart. A true Man in every meaning of the word.
By the way, I'm going to keep drilling your wife while you are out of town, now that she doesn't have to worry about you burning down the house or anything stupdi like that.

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call me when you go over. we can double team the cheating bitch. group sex is the next step for her. i should call my buddy tyrone. she would enjoy him. would you forgive her for that big man????

Anonymous

11-27-2004, 12:37 PM

I agree that a cheating spouse should be tossed, but why is it worse for the marriage if the wife fucks someone else? Obviously alot of you guys fuck around and you expect us to forgive. Why not the other way around?

Anonymous

11-27-2004, 01:20 PM

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I agree that a cheating spouse should be tossed, but why is it worse for the marriage if the wife fucks someone else? Obviously alot of you guys fuck around and you expect us to forgive. Why not the other way around?

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Men "USUALLY" do it for physical reasons....Women usually do it for emotional reasons. Not Justifying either side but a lot more damage is done when a woman does it.....once you are emotionally involved....well enough said. Either way, cheating is cheating...if a guy does...woman should toss em...same for the guy tossing the woman....Of course I am a guy...that is why I think put it head to head...I think it much worse and a lot more thought went into it for a woman...where as a man we just want to see different pussy.

Anonymous

11-27-2004, 04:12 PM

If your woman cheats blame her parents!
[ Genes responsible for female infidelity (http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/6576098/)

Anonymous

11-27-2004, 05:35 PM

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If your woman cheats blame her parents!
[ Genes responsible for female infidelity (http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/6576098/)

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So that's why I ended up screwing her Mom....

Anonymous

11-27-2004, 05:53 PM

keep it as a get out free card and get even!

Anonymous

11-27-2004, 07:15 PM

I'd keep her and hopefully she'd give me permission to do the same.

Anonymous

11-27-2004, 08:59 PM

If I caught my wife in an affair, I would demand that I either get to watch her next time or participate in a 3some. This would also open up the door for her to fulfill every fantasy that I have. If she refused, I'd file for divorce.

Anonymous

11-27-2004, 11:15 PM

The answer to all these problems: don't get married. Been there, done that. It sucks.

Anonymous

11-28-2004, 10:03 AM

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I agree that a cheating spouse should be tossed, but why is it worse for the marriage if the wife fucks someone else? Obviously alot of you guys fuck around and you expect us to forgive. Why not the other way around?

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Men "USUALLY" do it for physical reasons....Women usually do it for emotional reasons. Not Justifying either side but a lot more damage is done when a woman does it.....once you are emotionally involved....well enough said. Either way, cheating is cheating...if a guy does...woman should toss em...same for the guy tossing the woman....Of course I am a guy...that is why I think put it head to head...I think it much worse and a lot more thought went into it for a woman...where as a man we just want to see different pussy.

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It seems lately that many women are doing for the same reasons men are....just plain sex. You want to see pussy and they want to see dick. Bingo. Now what would you say without the emotional component?

Anonymous

11-28-2004, 02:16 PM

O.K. so I'm a dog! My wife cheated and I caught her. The guy quickly left the scene, so much for "loving her". She begged me to take her back so I did. But only on the grounds that our sex life would change. I had always wanted anal and she refused. Now she was going to have to give up the butt. I even got to film it. We made a movie where she was acting like a real whore. After I had my fill of her ass, I dumped the bitch and told her pics and videos would find their way onto the net if she didn't accept my divorce terms. Now I see my kids any time I want, she had to get a job to support her own ass, the kids are always telling her about how hot my new girlfriends are AND she is strangely quiet regarding any discussions about me or the divorce. Revenge is sweet!

Anonymous

11-28-2004, 02:31 PM

WOW http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/shocked.gif

Anonymous

11-28-2004, 02:44 PM

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O.K. so I'm a dog! My wife cheated and I caught her. The guy quickly left the scene, so much for "loving her". She begged me to take her back so I did. But only on the grounds that our sex life would change. I had always wanted anal and she refused. Now she was going to have to give up the butt. I even got to film it. We made a movie where she was acting like a real whore. After I had my fill of her ass, I dumped the bitch and told her pics and videos would find their way onto the net if she didn't accept my divorce terms. Now I see my kids any time I want, she had to get a job to support her own ass, the kids are always telling her about how hot my new girlfriends are AND she is strangely quiet regarding any discussions about me or the divorce. Revenge is sweet!

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Wow, will you be my new best friend!? I love this story!

Anonymous

11-28-2004, 04:41 PM

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I agree that a cheating spouse should be tossed, but why is it worse for the marriage if the wife fucks someone else? Obviously alot of you guys fuck around and you expect us to forgive. Why not the other way around?

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Men "USUALLY" do it for physical reasons....Women usually do it for emotional reasons. Not Justifying either side but a lot more damage is done when a woman does it.....once you are emotionally involved....well enough said. Either way, cheating is cheating...if a guy does...woman should toss em...same for the guy tossing the woman....Of course I am a guy...that is why I think put it head to head...I think it much worse and a lot more thought went into it for a woman...where as a man we just want to see different pussy.

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It seems lately that many women are doing for the same reasons men are....just plain sex. You want to see pussy and they want to see dick. Bingo. Now what would you say without the emotional component?

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As a guy, emotional or just sexual....I would still dump her.

Anonymous

11-28-2004, 06:27 PM

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I agree that a cheating spouse should be tossed, but why is it worse for the marriage if the wife fucks someone else? Obviously alot of you guys fuck around and you expect us to forgive. Why not the other way around?

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Men "USUALLY" do it for physical reasons....Women usually do it for emotional reasons. Not Justifying either side but a lot more damage is done when a woman does it.....once you are emotionally involved....well enough said. Either way, cheating is cheating...if a guy does...woman should toss em...same for the guy tossing the woman....Of course I am a guy...that is why I think put it head to head...I think it much worse and a lot more thought went into it for a woman...where as a man we just want to see different pussy.

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It seems lately that many women are doing for the same reasons men are....just plain sex. You want to see pussy and they want to see dick. Bingo. Now what would you say without the emotional component?

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As a guy, emotional or just sexual....I would still dump her.

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I would kick her dog ass then dump the bitch

Anonymous

11-28-2004, 07:37 PM

Yo diggity! I think I need to make some movies. Things are O.K., but sounds like a great thing to have just in case! http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/grin.gif

Anonymous

11-28-2004, 07:45 PM

i would probably shoot the both of them then go live in costa rica...

Anonymous

11-28-2004, 11:05 PM

First, anyone in a marriage or a serious relationship who cheats deserves the boot regardless if it's a guy or a chick.

If my wife had an affair, revenge would be the motivator. I think I'd pretend I didn't know about it, then hire a private "I" and wire my house and get some shit on tape. Then I'd have some leverage if she tries to take my kids, money, etc. and I'd threaten to send that shit to her parents, family, and friends!

First, if I found out who the guy was I'd break every bone in his hands, knock his teeth out, and bring out the ball-cutters.

Then I visit a good divorce and estate atty to get "financial advice." Details later...

As for my soon-to-be-ex-wife, I'd stay with her for a period of time, based on what the lawyers say, and make believe that I want to "rebuild" the marriage. If she's a working bitch, I'd keep our finances together saving aggressively. Any investments (i.e. stocks) would be in my name and beneficiaries would be my parents, kids, or some medical organizations. Then, after years of aggressive saving and transferring the house and utilities in her name, I'd put all of that money in off-shore accounts. Then I'd leave her as fast as it took her to get on her back.

Then again, I may need some time to sort out the details. http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/cool.gif

Anonymous

11-28-2004, 11:13 PM

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First, anyone in a marriage or a serious relationship who cheats deserves the boot regardless if it's a guy or a chick.

If my wife had an affair, revenge would be the motivator. I think I'd pretend I didn't know about it, then hire a private "I" and wire my house and get some shit on tape. Then I'd have some leverage if she tries to take my kids, money, etc. and I'd threaten to send that shit to her parents, family, and friends!

First, if I found out who the guy was I'd break every bone in his hands, knock his teeth out, and bring out the ball-cutters.

Then I visit a good divorce and estate atty to get "financial advice." Details later...

As for my soon-to-be-ex-wife, I'd stay with her for a period of time, based on what the lawyers say, and make believe that I want to "rebuild" the marriage. If she's a working bitch, I'd keep our finances together saving aggressively. Any investments (i.e. stocks) would be in my name and beneficiaries would be my parents, kids, or some medical organizations. Then, after years of aggressive saving and transferring the house and utilities in her name, I'd put all of that money in off-shore accounts. Then I'd leave her as fast as it took her to get on her back.

Then again, I may need some time to sort out the details. http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/cool.gif

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you have seen too many movies mr now-it-all. it doesn't work that way w/ the finanaces. take it from someone who did just about all of the above after my wife cheated. still got burned for half of everything plus the house.
as far as kicking the other guy's ass. get over yourself. he banged your old lady. any asskicking is just you not dealing with it. go bang one of your wifes hot friends macho guy.

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 07:31 AM

"First, if I found out who the guy was I'd break every bone in his hands, knock his teeth out, and bring out the ball-cutters."

That is one thing I would not do......Its not his fault my wife/girlfriend was cheating. If it wasn't him it would have been somebody else. No one is to blame except the person you are married too. Not saying I would buddy up with this guy but he would be the least of my concerns unless he crossed my path after I tied a few on (this means throwing back some beers).

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 07:38 AM

thanks for clarifying this.
i thought you meant bows in your hair.

dumbass--the metaphor is "tying one on"

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 08:10 AM

Don't just dump her ass but realize that she has betrayed you and prepare for war. You must be tough and be prepared for one of the biggest nightmares of your life. If you are one of the lucky ones that gets a good attorney you may be saved. I was not so lucky.

Oh, it was my bad. I was a dumbshit. I married a girl that had been married four other times by the age of 28...every guy she left for another guy. They never found out until afterwards. So my friend if you are fortunate enough to actually catch her cheating it is a blessing and you need to act now. I lived with her for 5 years just to make sure that she was tired of fucking around and then she mysteriously got pregnant. I tried to do the right thing and I married her. We were married for five years after that when suddenly I realized she wa having an affair. All the signs were there. I could not believe it. Then it was confirmed by someone at work.

Please just call me dumbass.......I then called an attorney and was going to file but I wanted to talk to her first and maybe work it out. She cried and gave me a big line of bullshit and said she would never do it again and then hey....guess what?? She filed the following monday. I knew something was up and went home from work....they could not find me so while she was still at her attorneys office she called the house and I was there. Her lawyer told me that I was being served with a restraining order....I am like....what? For what? They said I was a flight risk with our son. Anyway....I told the lawyer that I had not been served yet so it was not valid until I got handed the paper and commenced into a huge temper tantrum!!!!!

I pulled the bed out of the house and burnt it. I started throwing as much shit as I could possibly fit into my pick up truck in there. I live on a farm (oh I mean LIVED on a farm) so I sugared all of the farm equipment engines. It worked well. Finally as I am carrying the last stuff to my truck the sherriff comes and serves me with the papers. Honestly, I believe that I had a nervous break down that day.

Ok, as far as burning the bed and stuff....that was a bad idea. Beating the guy's ass....also a bad move. DON"T DO IT. is my advice. Later when it came time to settle everything....it all went to her. The judge blamed me for the break up. Saying that I was soooo violent he did not blame her. Even though I had NEVER done anything like that before. I could not even think about getting custody of my son either. The lawyer told me I had a good chance with her past record but after the violence and vandalism he could not see me getting custody....ever. Not only did the bitch cheat on me and got everything...I also had to pay child support, half of the house payment and half the car payment for one year. I had to stay with a friend because I could not afford a place to live.

A year later she married the guy. I thought of trying to get custody of our son and I told her this. Two weeks later she staged a burglary and only took personal stuff that belonged to her and also cut up the couch....the cops were waiting for me outside of my house the next day.....I was framed.....two weeks after that she burnt the house down. She collected the insurance money for the house...sold the land and moved to Florida with my son.

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 08:42 AM

Man, I know there are two sides to every story, but damn --what acold blooded bi-atch. She'd been married 4 times and you lived with her for 5 years? Surely there were clues? That attorney prick probably vouched for how "unstable you are" -- fuckin' lawyers. One of the worst stories I've heard brother!

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 11:34 AM

If she had an affair and I found out, she would no longer be my wife. No statute of limitations. And I would never be unfaithful to her, period.

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 11:55 AM

I was married once for 5 years; 1974-1979. Been divorced/unmarried ever since. If you don’t intend to have kids, there’s no point. Have a vasectomy, serial long-term relationships, and maintain control of your own destiny – totally impossible if you marry a woman with children from a previous marriage/relationship. I will never be married again as it's the surest way I know to avoid getting caught up in the legal system. And nothing good happens up in there.

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 12:17 PM

divorced guy who hears where you are coming from. have a kid from first marriage and loved being a full time dad. for about 2yrs after my divorced i balled any hot chick i could find. i'm sure you agree that it is much easier to get great looking women now. anyway i am getting married again b/c i want more kids. talked to my lawyer and he told me there is nothing that a prenup can do that any sane woman would ever sign. unless you have a big inheritance or your own business, prenups happen on t.v. my strategy is to hide about $500 cash every month. interest rates are low enough now that just keeping cash doesn't kill you in the long run. my accountant has copies of all of my financial documents to show what i am bringing into the marriage. i will put the house in my name this time(my cash is buying it) and will not have any joint credit cards. there isn't much more i can do to insulate myself against the horrors of the legal system. if it weren't for wanting more kids, i don't think i would do it again.

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 01:10 PM

To all the people who say toss the bitch, etc. I can't help but wonder what you would say if you were in my shoes.

One week after my 20th wedding anniversary I found at that My wife had been having an emotional & physical affair with another rep for 9 months. Devastated is not a strong enough word to describe how this affected me. It has been 18 months since I found out, and I feel I am just now getting back to normal (although I still have tremendous fantasies about kicking the living shit out of the small dicked hairy bastard known as the "Liar"). We also have kids, mortgage, etc. which obviously complicate matters. My wife does seem truly sorry about both what this has done to me and ofcourse our life together. She knows that whenever she says "I love you" that I really just hear blah, blah blah. The fact is things will never be the same ever again. So both of us have had to decide if we can live together as things are now.

She knows that if this happens again, Game Over! We were married young (me 20, her 19) there is a small part of us I am sure who would like to have the single lifestyle, at least for a while. For me this I am sure would pass and I would eventually want to be married again.

However, when I here other guys talk about how unhappy they are with their sex lives because their wife is either fat & ugly or never wants to fuck. While I no longer have my wife or atleast our marriage on some pedestal, she is still in my eyes one of the most beautiful women around. We also have sex practically every day, and she is fun and adventurous when we do. I simply can't relate to guys who say they are "allowed" to fuck their wives just 2x/month. If that is what other women are like then I would probably be single for the rest of my life. I mean come on what's the point sex is too important.

Sex is however just one part of a marriage albeit important. My wife simply put lights up every room she enters. She is a good friend, good mother, and whether married or not we both know we will be friends for the rest of our life. To top it off she makes a very good income, and makes the best lasagna ever.

So there you have it. Would you still "dump her" after more than 20 years together, or try to make a new life given the new circumstances. Would you sell our beautiful house, look into my kids face and tell them "sorry guys you're now from a broken home", and give up the company of a beautiful, witty woman who wants to fuck you nearly everyday. Don't be so sure you would.

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 01:20 PM

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To all the people who say toss the bitch, etc. I can't help but wonder what you would say if you were in my shoes.

One week after my 20th wedding anniversary I found at that My wife had been having an emotional & physical affair with another rep for 9 months. Devastated is not a strong enough word to describe how this affected me. It has been 18 months since I found out, and I feel I am just now getting back to normal (although I still have tremendous fantasies about kicking the living shit out of the small dicked hairy bastard known as the "Liar"). We also have kids, mortgage, etc. which obviously complicate matters. My wife does seem truly sorry about both what this has done to me and ofcourse our life together. She knows that whenever she says "I love you" that I really just hear blah, blah blah. The fact is things will never be the same ever again. So both of us have had to decide if we can live together as things are now.

She knows that if this happens again, Game Over! We were married young (me 20, her 19) there is a small part of us I am sure who would like to have the single lifestyle, at least for a while. For me this I am sure would pass and I would eventually want to be married again.

However, when I here other guys talk about how unhappy they are with their sex lives because their wife is either fat & ugly or never wants to fuck. While I no longer have my wife or atleast our marriage on some pedestal, she is still in my eyes one of the most beautiful women around. We also have sex practically every day, and she is fun and adventurous when we do. I simply can't relate to guys who say they are "allowed" to fuck their wives just 2x/month. If that is what other women are like then I would probably be single for the rest of my life. I mean come on what's the point sex is too important.

Sex is however just one part of a marriage albeit important. My wife simply put lights up every room she enters. She is a good friend, good mother, and whether married or not we both know we will be friends for the rest of our life. To top it off she makes a very good income, and makes the best lasagna ever.

So there you have it. Would you still "dump her" after more than 20 years together, or try to make a new life given the new circumstances. Would you sell our beautiful house, look into my kids face and tell them "sorry guys you're now from a broken home", and give up the company of a beautiful, witty woman who wants to fuck you nearly everyday. Don't be so sure you would.

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just tossing her is in the rearview mirror at this point. that ship has sailed. she knows you love her b/c you are still around. what is killing you is the fact that she explored what you would love to do. women do it for different reasons than guys. she wanted to make herself feel desireable again most likely. it would suck if you broke up-especially for the kids. i think it may help you and her if you even the score. not a relaionship but some ass for sure. get a couple of buddies and go to vegas for a few days. unless you are a troll, you can get laid there twice a day. get yourself some strange ass and don't tell her about it. she will want to know everything but never tell her. she has tortured you and now it is your turn. in a couple of years you will both be over it and you can stay married. the way you are going now, you will never make it.

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 01:23 PM

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To all the people who say toss the bitch, etc. I can't help but wonder what you would say if you were in my shoes.

One week after my 20th wedding anniversary I found at that My wife had been having an emotional & physical affair with another rep for 9 months. Devastated is not a strong enough word to describe how this affected me. It has been 18 months since I found out, and I feel I am just now getting back to normal (although I still have tremendous fantasies about kicking the living shit out of the small dicked hairy bastard known as the "Liar"). We also have kids, mortgage, etc. which obviously complicate matters. My wife does seem truly sorry about both what this has done to me and ofcourse our life together. She knows that whenever she says "I love you" that I really just hear blah, blah blah. The fact is things will never be the same ever again. So both of us have had to decide if we can live together as things are now.

She knows that if this happens again, Game Over! We were married young (me 20, her 19) there is a small part of us I am sure who would like to have the single lifestyle, at least for a while. For me this I am sure would pass and I would eventually want to be married again.

However, when I here other guys talk about how unhappy they are with their sex lives because their wife is either fat & ugly or never wants to fuck. While I no longer have my wife or atleast our marriage on some pedestal, she is still in my eyes one of the most beautiful women around. We also have sex practically every day, and she is fun and adventurous when we do. I simply can't relate to guys who say they are "allowed" to fuck their wives just 2x/month. If that is what other women are like then I would probably be single for the rest of my life. I mean come on what's the point sex is too important.

Sex is however just one part of a marriage albeit important. My wife simply put lights up every room she enters. She is a good friend, good mother, and whether married or not we both know we will be friends for the rest of our life. To top it off she makes a very good income, and makes the best lasagna ever.

So there you have it. Would you still "dump her" after more than 20 years together, or try to make a new life given the new circumstances. Would you sell our beautiful house, look into my kids face and tell them "sorry guys you're now from a broken home", and give up the company of a beautiful, witty woman who wants to fuck you nearly everyday. Don't be so sure you would.

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Ok I hear your point. However, when you get cheated on you have no way of knowing if your wife is going to run off with the guy or kick your ass out. If she falls in love with the guy that means there is no room left for you. Then at that point be prepared to get royally fucked by your wife, her lover and the legal system. My question to you is are you sure now that after she betrayed you like that she is not preparing herself financially to destroy your life and give some other guy everything you own including your kids most of the time. GET A FUCKING CLUE!!! Divorce the woman AND THEN get back to her if you want to. But not until you first kick her ass in court.

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 01:28 PM

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To all the people who say toss the bitch, etc. I can't help but wonder what you would say if you were in my shoes.

One week after my 20th wedding anniversary I found at that My wife had been having an emotional & physical affair with another rep for 9 months. Devastated is not a strong enough word to describe how this affected me. It has been 18 months since I found out, and I feel I am just now getting back to normal (although I still have tremendous fantasies about kicking the living shit out of the small dicked hairy bastard known as the "Liar"). We also have kids, mortgage, etc. which obviously complicate matters. My wife does seem truly sorry about both what this has done to me and ofcourse our life together. She knows that whenever she says "I love you" that I really just hear blah, blah blah. The fact is things will never be the same ever again. So both of us have had to decide if we can live together as things are now.

She knows that if this happens again, Game Over! We were married young (me 20, her 19) there is a small part of us I am sure who would like to have the single lifestyle, at least for a while. For me this I am sure would pass and I would eventually want to be married again.

However, when I here other guys talk about how unhappy they are with their sex lives because their wife is either fat & ugly or never wants to fuck. While I no longer have my wife or atleast our marriage on some pedestal, she is still in my eyes one of the most beautiful women around. We also have sex practically every day, and she is fun and adventurous when we do. I simply can't relate to guys who say they are "allowed" to fuck their wives just 2x/month. If that is what other women are like then I would probably be single for the rest of my life. I mean come on what's the point sex is too important.

Sex is however just one part of a marriage albeit important. My wife simply put lights up every room she enters. She is a good friend, good mother, and whether married or not we both know we will be friends for the rest of our life. To top it off she makes a very good income, and makes the best lasagna ever.

So there you have it. Would you still "dump her" after more than 20 years together, or try to make a new life given the new circumstances. Would you sell our beautiful house, look into my kids face and tell them "sorry guys you're now from a broken home", and give up the company of a beautiful, witty woman who wants to fuck you nearly everyday. Don't be so sure you would.

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Ok I hear your point. However, when you get cheated on you have no way of knowing if your wife is going to run off with the guy or kick your ass out. If she falls in love with the guy that means there is no room left for you. Then at that point be prepared to get royally fucked by your wife, her lover and the legal system. My question to you is are you sure now that after she betrayed you like that she is not preparing herself financially to destroy your life and give some other guy everything you own including your kids most of the time. GET A FUCKING CLUE!!! Divorce the woman AND THEN get back to her if you want to. But not until you first kick her ass in court.

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yet another asswipe that thinks that divorce works the way it does on t.v. not true. this guy will get punished in court whether he brings it or she does. it doesn't matter if she fucked a dude on the courthouse steps with the judge watching. he will get fucked financially after 20yrs so bad he will be living in a cardboard box.

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 01:40 PM

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To all the people who say toss the bitch, etc. I can't help but wonder what you would say if you were in my shoes.

One week after my 20th wedding anniversary I found at that My wife had been having an emotional & physical affair with another rep for 9 months. Devastated is not a strong enough word to describe how this affected me. It has been 18 months since I found out, and I feel I am just now getting back to normal (although I still have tremendous fantasies about kicking the living shit out of the small dicked hairy bastard known as the "Liar"). We also have kids, mortgage, etc. which obviously complicate matters. My wife does seem truly sorry about both what this has done to me and ofcourse our life together. She knows that whenever she says "I love you" that I really just hear blah, blah blah. The fact is things will never be the same ever again. So both of us have had to decide if we can live together as things are now.

She knows that if this happens again, Game Over! We were married young (me 20, her 19) there is a small part of us I am sure who would like to have the single lifestyle, at least for a while. For me this I am sure would pass and I would eventually want to be married again.

However, when I here other guys talk about how unhappy they are with their sex lives because their wife is either fat & ugly or never wants to fuck. While I no longer have my wife or atleast our marriage on some pedestal, she is still in my eyes one of the most beautiful women around. We also have sex practically every day, and she is fun and adventurous when we do. I simply can't relate to guys who say they are "allowed" to fuck their wives just 2x/month. If that is what other women are like then I would probably be single for the rest of my life. I mean come on what's the point sex is too important.

Sex is however just one part of a marriage albeit important. My wife simply put lights up every room she enters. She is a good friend, good mother, and whether married or not we both know we will be friends for the rest of our life. To top it off she makes a very good income, and makes the best lasagna ever.

So there you have it. Would you still "dump her" after more than 20 years together, or try to make a new life given the new circumstances. Would you sell our beautiful house, look into my kids face and tell them "sorry guys you're now from a broken home", and give up the company of a beautiful, witty woman who wants to fuck you nearly everyday. Don't be so sure you would.

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Ok I hear your point. However, when you get cheated on you have no way of knowing if your wife is going to run off with the guy or kick your ass out. If she falls in love with the guy that means there is no room left for you. Then at that point be prepared to get royally fucked by your wife, her lover and the legal system. My question to you is are you sure now that after she betrayed you like that she is not preparing herself financially to destroy your life and give some other guy everything you own including your kids most of the time. GET A FUCKING CLUE!!! Divorce the woman AND THEN get back to her if you want to. But not until you first kick her ass in court.

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yet another asswipe that thinks that divorce works the way it does on t.v. not true. this guy will get punished in court whether he brings it or she does. it doesn't matter if she fucked a dude on the courthouse steps with the judge watching. he will get fucked financially after 20yrs so bad he will be living in a cardboard box.

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I am not an asswipe. You are right. Been there and done it. I guess I am just wishing that reality has justice in it but it does not. What you say is true...the guy almost always gets fucked. I guess all you can do is change your attitude, become a pagan and have community orgies for fun. Then who gives a fuck! Everyone is happy. But that little hair ball that is scratching the back of your throat while you think of some other guy sticking his dick in your wifes mouth...well I guess you better learn how to swallow.

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 01:51 PM

[QUOTE]
[QUOTE]
[QUOTE]
[QUOTE]
To all the people who say toss the bitch, etc. I can't help but wonder what you would say if you were in my shoes.

One week after my 20th wedding anniversary I found at that My wife had been having an emotional & physical affair with another rep for 9 months. Devastated is not a strong enough word to describe how this affected me. It has been 18 months since I found out, and I feel I am just now getting back to normal (although I still have tremendous fantasies about kicking the living shit out of the small dicked hairy bastard known as the "Liar"). We also have kids, mortgage, etc. which obviously complicate matters. My wife does seem truly sorry about both what this has done to me and ofcourse our life together. She knows that whenever she says "I love you" that I really just hear blah, blah blah. The fact is things will never be the same ever again. So both of us have had to decide if we can live together as things are now.

She knows that if this happens again, Game Over! We were married young (me 20, her 19) there is a small part of us I am sure who would like to have the single lifestyle, at least for a while. For me this I am sure would pass and I would eventually want to be married again.

However, when I here other guys talk about how unhappy they are with their sex lives because their wife is either fat & ugly or never wants to fuck. While I no longer have my wife or atleast our marriage on some pedestal, she is still in my eyes one of the most beautiful women around. We also have sex practically every day, and she is fun and adventurous when we do. I simply can't relate to guys who say they are "allowed" to fuck their wives just 2x/month. If that is what other women are like then I would probably be single for the rest of my life. I mean come on what's the point sex is too important.

Sex is however just one part of a marriage albeit important. My wife simply put lights up every room she enters. She is a good friend, good mother, and whether married or not we both know we will be friends for the rest of our life. To top it off she makes a very good income, and makes the best lasagna ever.

So there you have it. Would you still "dump her" after more than 20 years together, or try to make a new life given the new circumstances. Would you sell our beautiful house, look into my kids face and tell them "sorry guys you're now from a broken home", and give up the company of a beautiful, witty woman who wants to fuck you nearly everyday. Don't be so sure you would.

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Ok I hear your point. However, when you get cheated on you have no way of knowing if your wife is going to run off with the guy or kick your ass out. If she falls in love with the guy that means there is no room left for you. Then at that point be prepared to get royally fucked by your wife, her lover and the legal system. My question to you is are you sure now that after she betrayed you like that she is not preparing herself financially to destroy your life and give some other guy everything you own including your kids most of the time. GET A FUCKING CLUE!!! Divorce the woman AND THEN get back to her if you want to. But not until you first kick her ass in court.

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yet another asswipe that thinks that divorce works the way it does on t.v. not true. this guy will get punished in court whether he brings it or she does. it doesn't matter if she fucked a dude on the courthouse steps with the judge watching. he will get fucked financially after 20yrs so bad he will be living in a cardboard box.

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I am not an asswipe. You are right. Been there and done it. I guess I am just wishing that reality has justice in it but it does not. What you say is true...the guy almost always gets fucked. I guess all you can do is change your attitude, become a pagan and have community orgies for fun. Then who gives a fuck! Everyone is happy. But that little hair ball that is scratching the back of your throat while you think of some other guy sticking his dick in your wifes mouth...well I guess you better learn how to swallow.

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don't underestimate yourself my friend, you are quite the asswipe indeed.

answer this- what is tougher to swallow:

1. your wife had my dick in her gullet.

or

2. your wife had my dick in her gullet and now both of us get to live in your house, hang out with your kids, and spend all of the cash you earn.

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 01:54 PM

I completely trust her that way. I know you think I am being naive, but I trust her that way. Besides, as I said she makes a great income, therefore she has as much to lose as I. Lust and the human heart are a strange thing that allow people to do what she did. For me to believe she would purposefully attempt to wipe me out financially or otherwise stomp on my dreams, I would have to believe she is not just very human but malicious and evil. Personally, 20 years tells me she is not either of those things. However, I am aware that some future little Liar might try to talk her into doing things to me she would not otherwise do. So I will stay aware to the possibility of another snake, but until then (hopefully never) I can't imagine living the deceitful, manipulative life you propose.

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 02:25 PM

Damn, and all this time I never knew I was an asswipe. Well, I guess I will be drinking my beer tonight thinking about what an asswipe I was for letting my pride get in the way. You are a bigger man than I am my friend. Either that or you are just really really stupid. You don't write like you are stupid so I have to assume that you know your wife better than anyone. Did she tell you why she betrayed you for 9 months? Did you know when it was happening. And do you, think for one minute that you can now let your guard down knowing what she is capable of? I could not do it. And because of that (as you said) I lost my son. The thing is, when she told me that she would never do it again I believed her just as you are doing. And the fact is she was just biding time until the moment was right and she could properly fuck me for everything I am worth. If you could not trust her to keep her hands off another guy's dick what makes you so sure you can trust her with your money and your kids.

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 02:51 PM

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I completely trust her that way. I know you think I am being naive, but I trust her that way. Besides, as I said she makes a great income, therefore she has as much to lose as I. Lust and the human heart are a strange thing that allow people to do what she did. For me to believe she would purposefully attempt to wipe me out financially or otherwise stomp on my dreams, I would have to believe she is not just very human but malicious and evil. Personally, 20 years tells me she is not either of those things. However, I am aware that some future little Liar might try to talk her into doing things to me she would not otherwise do. So I will stay aware to the possibility of another snake, but until then (hopefully never) I can't imagine living the deceitful, manipulative life you propose.

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that is precisely why you need to even the score and just move on after that.
when we going to vegas??

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 02:58 PM

No I can't let my guard down, I know it, she knows it. What you say has merit, and the dust is still settling. The permanence with which I used to see my world is gone. However, I simply can't accept the manuvering & duplicity which would be necessary to live, even temporarily, as you propose. It's almost like you would be affraid to fall asleep at night, or eat any food prepared by the person you describe. That is not my wife.

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 03:10 PM

your mind is a mess at this point. you are still struggling with the fact that your wife did this to you and your relationship. she didn't mean to hurt you, she was selfish and in it for herself.
you are really trying to do the right thing and fight thru the pain of what happened and still be a good guy. what you have to figure out is why it happened and if there is the serious potential for it to happen again. you need to go to a marriage counselor to figure out what she was looking for. if you just push this under the rug it will come back to haunt you both. women don't behave like guys. it has to be an emotional thing for them to cheat. we just need something willing and some booze. if she found that emotion in someone else and you have no idea what it is that you lack--she will find it again.
if you won't go to las vegas with me, go to counseling with her.
shit, we would have had fun.

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 03:29 PM

[QUOTE]
To all the people who say toss the bitch, etc. I can't help but wonder what you would say if you were in my shoes.

One week after my 20th wedding anniversary I found at that My wife had been having an emotional & physical affair with another rep for 9 months. Devastated is not a strong enough word to describe how this affected me. It has been 18 months since I found out, and I feel I am just now getting back to normal (although I still have tremendous fantasies about kicking the living shit out of the small dicked hairy bastard known as the "Liar"). We also have kids, mortgage, etc. which obviously complicate matters. My wife does seem truly sorry about both what this has done to me and ofcourse our life together. She knows that whenever she says "I love you" that I really just hear blah, blah blah. The fact is things will never be the same ever again. So both of us have had to decide if we can live together as things are now.

She knows that if this happens again, Game Over! We were married young (me 20, her 19) there is a small part of us I am sure who would like to have the single lifestyle, at least for a while. For me this I am sure would pass and I would eventually want to be married again.

However, when I here other guys talk about how unhappy they are with their sex lives because their wife is either fat & ugly or never wants to fuck. While I no longer have my wife or atleast our marriage on some pedestal, she is still in my eyes one of the most beautiful women around. We also have sex practically every day, and she is fun and adventurous when we do. I simply can't relate to guys who say they are "allowed" to fuck their wives just 2x/month. If that is what other women are like then I would probably be single for the rest of my life. I mean come on what's the point sex is too important.

Sex is however just one part of a marriage albeit important. My wife simply put lights up every room she enters. She is a good friend, good mother, and whether married or not we both know we will be friends for the rest of our life. To top it off she makes a very good income, and makes the best lasagna ever.

So there you have it. Would you still "dump her" after more than 20 years together, or try to make a new life given the new circumstances. Would you sell our beautiful house, look into my kids face and tell them "sorry guys you're now from a broken home", and give up the company of a beautiful, witty woman who wants to fuck you nearly everyday. Don't be so sure you would.

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I couldn't live with her anymore, case closed. We'd be done. I don't care how beautiful she is, how much she gives it up (to you and/or others), or how delicious her lasagna is. It's unfortunate you feel you can't find sex, beauty, and lasagna elsewhere. But hey, that's just me. If you want to stay married to her, do so. The two of you can model a dysfunctional marriage for your children to emulate some day. But understand that "kicking the living shit out of the small dicked hairy bastard known as the 'Liar'" won't solve anything. He wasn't the one you took the vows with. Oh, and this; "She knows that if this happens again, Game Over!" Good luck, but you've shown her otherwise.

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 03:32 PM

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 04:01 PM

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No I can't let my guard down, I know it, she knows it. What you say has merit, and the dust is still settling. The permanence with which I used to see my world is gone. However, I simply can't accept the manuvering & duplicity which would be necessary to live, even temporarily, as you propose. It's almost like you would be affraid to fall asleep at night, or eat any food prepared by the person you describe. That is not my wife.

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It is hard to fit everything into words here on CP. I left out one little part of the story and this last paragragh from you makes me want to tell you this.

Me and my ex did Margerita's and Fajita's every Saturday night. She did the Margerita's and I did the Fajita's on the grill. Life is good right. Well, I was already certain that she was having an affair, so I admit that I was looking through her bag on Saturday morning while she was in town shopping. I was looking for phone numbers or love letters. Instead I found ground up sleeping pills. VERY FINELY ground up sleeping pills. At first I thought it was coke. Well, when I tasted it I found out it was not coke. It was in a baggy inside of a tylenol bottle. So I took it and had it analyzed. A whole bottle of sleeping pills is what it was. Get the picture...Margerita's+a bottle of sleeping pills=dead husband. I am a heavy drinker too and she knows that. At least on Saturday's. I also found two pills in the almost empty bottle in her underwear drawer and the receipt from the day before. So figure it out. Sleeping pills....but not the whole bottle, receipt-and you have an accidental overdosed husband. Hey and I believe if it is an accident she still gets to collect the insurance money right? Sound far fetched? Well it is true. I ended up giving a friend the powder which he saved in case I ended up dead. So yes, watch what you eat and drink from now on. And if you saw my ex she looks and acts like the sweetest woman in the world. Like I said...she was just trying to figure out the plan. I am sorry to talk to you like this after having been through the same kind of pain and thinking that my world was destroyed. I know you are hurting. But I feel obligated to tell you my story. Guy's like us need to stick together.

Look, I am now with a beautiful woman and life is better than ever. At least when I do not think about everything that I lost. She almost destroyed me. Mentally and physically. Or when I am not crying about my son. There are other things that happened too. Like when she was obviously trying to get me to hit her and I would not do it. She ws trying to work it all out. That took time. I can't fit it all in here on CP.

The fact is that you trusted her and she broke that trust. You can not un-break something that has been broken. Oh ya you can glue it back together but it will always be broken and held together with glue. Never the same. And now you have to look at it and see the cracks and glue not knowing how long it will hold. Is that not torture? Are you not here saying that you trust her because you are trying to convince yourself? She did not have a one night drunken stand with some guy. She had an affair. What do you think they were talking about when they were together? Quite possibly the end of you my friend. Or at the very least the end of your relationship with her. Do you really think that she has quit seeing the guy just because you caught her? That is not why people quit seeing each other dad. No the reason is because that is what THEY decide to do. So do what you are doing and assure her that everything is ok. And then quietly and without hurting anyone physically terminate your relationship with her and form a new one with your children. It can be done. She is the one that blew it not you. Don't let her fuck you over again. Then you will be made a fool of once again. I think that got to me more than anything. Knowing that I gave my trust and was treated like a fool for not knowing. But you are NOT a fool. The rules change in the game when people cheat. Now you play by her rules. The rules of a cheater say that anything goes. Especially her my friend. She has got to go. As painful as that may be.

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 04:07 PM

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[QUOTE]
No I can't let my guard down, I know it, she knows it. What you say has merit, and the dust is still settling. The permanence with which I used to see my world is gone. However, I simply can't accept the manuvering & duplicity which would be necessary to live, even temporarily, as you propose. It's almost like you would be affraid to fall asleep at night, or eat any food prepared by the person you describe. That is not my wife.

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It is hard to fit everything into words here on CP. I left out one little part of the story and this last paragragh from you makes me want to tell you this.

Me and my ex did Margerita's and Fajita's every Saturday night. She did the Margerita's and I did the Fajita's on the grill. Life is good right. Well, I was already certain that she was having an affair, so I admit that I was looking through her bag on Saturday morning while she was in town shopping. I was looking for phone numbers or love letters. Instead I found ground up sleeping pills. VERY FINELY ground up sleeping pills. At first I thought it was coke. Well, when I tasted it I found out it was not coke. It was in a baggy inside of a tylenol bottle. So I took it and had it analyzed. A whole bottle of sleeping pills is what it was. Get the picture...Margerita's+a bottle of sleeping pills=dead husband. I am a heavy drinker too and she knows that. At least on Saturday's. I also found two pills in the almost empty bottle in her underwear drawer and the receipt from the day before. So figure it out. Sleeping pills....but not the whole bottle, receipt-and you have an accidental overdosed husband. Hey and I believe if it is an accident she still gets to collect the insurance money right? Sound far fetched? Well it is true. I ended up giving a friend the powder which he saved in case I ended up dead. So yes, watch what you eat and drink from now on. And if you saw my ex she looks and acts like the sweetest woman in the world. Like I said...she was just trying to figure out the plan. I am sorry to talk to you like this after having been through the same kind of pain and thinking that my world was destroyed. I know you are hurting. But I feel obligated to tell you my story. Guy's like us need to stick together.

Look, I am now with a beautiful woman and life is better than ever. At least when I do not think about everything that I lost. She almost destroyed me. Mentally and physically. Or when I am not crying about my son. There are other things that happened too. Like when she was obviously trying to get me to hit her and I would not do it. She ws trying to work it all out. That took time. I can't fit it all in here on CP.

The fact is that you trusted her and she broke that trust. You can not un-break something that has been broken. Oh ya you can glue it back together but it will always be broken and held together with glue. Never the same. And now you have to look at it and see the cracks and glue not knowing how long it will hold. Is that not torture? Are you not here saying that you trust her because you are trying to convince yourself? She did not have a one night drunken stand with some guy. She had an affair. What do you think they were talking about when they were together? Quite possibly the end of you my friend. Or at the very least the end of your relationship with her. Do you really think that she has quit seeing the guy just because you caught her? That is not why people quit seeing each other dad. No the reason is because that is what THEY decide to do. So do what you are doing and assure her that everything is ok. And then quietly and without hurting anyone physically terminate your relationship with her and form a new one with your children. It can be done. She is the one that blew it not you. Don't let her fuck you over again. Then you will be made a fool of once again. I think that got to me more than anything. Knowing that I gave my trust and was treated like a fool for not knowing. But you are NOT a fool. The rules change in the game when people cheat. Now you play by her rules. The rules of a cheater say that anything goes. Especially her my friend. She has got to go. As painful as that may be.

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Okay.
MY ex-wife is now the SECOND biggest cunt on earth.
She just can't compete with those murdering types of bitches.
I thought she had the throne forever.

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 09:41 PM

This is a very sad thread indeed. What I want to know is, who's gonna make all you guys your "sammiches"?

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 10:18 PM

i have an obsession with the bitch making me a fine sandwich after she takes care of my "situation" but not if she is going to be putting any "magic powder" in my deal.
shit, i may just start asking for a burger in the future.

Anonymous

11-29-2004, 10:28 PM

Sad for you guys that got fucked over, makes me understand why there are so many angry 30-40 year old men these days. And it irritates me, since I think some of these bitches messed you guys up for the rest of us.
Got to say if the guy I was with cheated I would simply walk out the door, period. I'd take a few things but I'd be gone(no kids involved). I've done it before and it is the healthiest way to go, just don't ever look back.

Anonymous

11-30-2004, 09:12 AM

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Sad for you guys that got fucked over, makes me understand why there are so many angry 30-40 year old men these days. And it irritates me, since I think some of these bitches messed you guys up for the rest of us.
Got to say if the guy I was with cheated I would simply walk out the door, period. I'd take a few things but I'd be gone(no kids involved). I've done it before and it is the healthiest way to go, just don't ever look back.

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ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZactly! It's all about keeping yourself heathly and moving on.

Anonymous

11-30-2004, 10:42 AM

Who are these cunts? No wonder I haven't married. You guys a scarring me. Guess you gotta be careful and have a plan, like that ass movie guy --great move dude!!

Anonymous

11-30-2004, 11:13 AM

[QUOTE]
[QUOTE]
No I can't let my guard down, I know it, she knows it. What you say has merit, and the dust is still settling. The permanence with which I used to see my world is gone. However, I simply can't accept the manuvering & duplicity which would be necessary to live, even temporarily, as you propose. It's almost like you would be affraid to fall asleep at night, or eat any food prepared by the person you describe. That is not my wife.

[/ QUOTE ]

It is hard to fit everything into words here on CP. I left out one little part of the story and this last paragragh from you makes me want to tell you this.

Me and my ex did Margerita's and Fajita's every Saturday night. She did the Margerita's and I did the Fajita's on the grill. Life is good right. Well, I was already certain that she was having an affair, so I admit that I was looking through her bag on Saturday morning while she was in town shopping. I was looking for phone numbers or love letters. Instead I found ground up sleeping pills. VERY FINELY ground up sleeping pills. At first I thought it was coke. Well, when I tasted it I found out it was not coke. It was in a baggy inside of a tylenol bottle. So I took it and had it analyzed. A whole bottle of sleeping pills is what it was. Get the picture...Margerita's+a bottle of sleeping pills=dead husband. I am a heavy drinker too and she knows that. At least on Saturday's. I also found two pills in the almost empty bottle in her underwear drawer and the receipt from the day before. So figure it out. Sleeping pills....but not the whole bottle, receipt-and you have an accidental overdosed husband. Hey and I believe if it is an accident she still gets to collect the insurance money right? Sound far fetched? Well it is true. I ended up giving a friend the powder which he saved in case I ended up dead. So yes, watch what you eat and drink from now on. And if you saw my ex she looks and acts like the sweetest woman in the world. Like I said...she was just trying to figure out the plan. I am sorry to talk to you like this after having been through the same kind of pain and thinking that my world was destroyed. I know you are hurting. But I feel obligated to tell you my story. Guy's like us need to stick together.

Look, I am now with a beautiful woman and life is better than ever. At least when I do not think about everything that I lost. She almost destroyed me. Mentally and physically. Or when I am not crying about my son. There are other things that happened too. Like when she was obviously trying to get me to hit her and I would not do it. She ws trying to work it all out. That took time. I can't fit it all in here on CP.

The fact is that you trusted her and she broke that trust. You can not un-break something that has been broken. Oh ya you can glue it back together but it will always be broken and held together with glue. Never the same. And now you have to look at it and see the cracks and glue not knowing how long it will hold. Is that not torture? Are you not here saying that you trust her because you are trying to convince yourself? She did not have a one night drunken stand with some guy. She had an affair. What do you think they were talking about when they were together? Quite possibly the end of you my friend. Or at the very least the end of your relationship with her. Do you really think that she has quit seeing the guy just because you caught her? That is not why people quit seeing each other dad. No the reason is because that is what THEY decide to do. So do what you are doing and assure her that everything is ok. And then quietly and without hurting anyone physically terminate your relationship with her and form a new one with your children. It can be done. She is the one that blew it not you. Don't let her fuck you over again. Then you will be made a fool of once again. I think that got to me more than anything. Knowing that I gave my trust and was treated like a fool for not knowing. But you are NOT a fool. The rules change in the game when people cheat. Now you play by her rules. The rules of a cheater say that anything goes. Especially her my friend. She has got to go. As painful as that may be.

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I work at the local pharmacy...guess what your new wife just bought? I'd make your own Margarita's from now on. http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/cool.gif

Anonymous

11-30-2004, 12:31 PM

Yes! Hail to the ass movie man. If only I had balls that big!

Anonymous

11-30-2004, 01:24 PM

What's an ass movie man? http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/confused.gif

Anonymous

11-30-2004, 02:06 PM

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How would you react? Would you keep her or toss her ass out?

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I really wouldn't care. It's too expensive to get divorced. I'd see if she wants to cheat together through swinging. That way, we both get what we want and keep the household intact.

Anonymous

11-30-2004, 03:19 PM

What a bunch of drama queens.

Wait, wait, let me check my calendar, yes, I am right, it is 2004, we did have a sexual revolution, we did invent the pill. Wow, for a minute I thought is was 1850 and Queen Vic was in charge.

No one here is speaking about the important things. How your relationship is going, the money, the kids, the time you spend together, your home (well one guy had his burned). So the old lady banged somebody when you weren't around. Like you always keep you whip zipped. TFB, If the two of you still have a good life together and kids to raise, let it go. The family is more important than your ego.

Hell, unless you have taken a DNA test, you don't know who your own Daddy is. I know I look nothing like mine. Just the way it is.

Say your sorry, and move on.

Anonymous

11-30-2004, 03:25 PM

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What's an ass movie man? http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/confused.gif

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Check a few posts back. Some dude made a movie and black-mailed his wife with it.

Anonymous

11-30-2004, 03:27 PM

[QUOTE]
What a bunch of drama queens.

Wait, wait, let me check my calendar, yes, I am right, it is 2004, we did have a sexual revolution, we did invent the pill. Wow, for a minute I thought is was 1850 and Queen Vic was in charge.

No one here is speaking about the important things. How your relationship is going, the money, the kids, the time you spend together, your home (well one guy had his burned). So the old lady banged somebody when you weren't around. Like you always keep you whip zipped. TFB, If the two of you still have a good life together and kids to raise, let it go. The family is more important than your ego.

Hell, unless you have taken a DNA test, you don't know who your own Daddy is. I know I look nothing like mine. Just the way it is.

Say your sorry, and move on.

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I'm sorry your mom fucked around on your dad and you don't know who your biological father is. And I'm sorry I fucked your wife, but hey, it was there. Why keep the whip zipped, right? But ya still got a great marriage and family goin' there. Was that your dysfunctional ass on 'Cheaters' over the weekend?

Anonymous

11-30-2004, 03:42 PM

[QUOTE]
[QUOTE]
What a bunch of drama queens.

Wait, wait, let me check my calendar, yes, I am right, it is 2004, we did have a sexual revolution, we did invent the pill. Wow, for a minute I thought is was 1850 and Queen Vic was in charge.

No one here is speaking about the important things. How your relationship is going, the money, the kids, the time you spend together, your home (well one guy had his burned). So the old lady banged somebody when you weren't around. Like you always keep you whip zipped. TFB, If the two of you still have a good life together and kids to raise, let it go. The family is more important than your ego.

Hell, unless you have taken a DNA test, you don't know who your own Daddy is. I know I look nothing like mine. Just the way it is.

Say your sorry, and move on.

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I'm sorry your mom fucked around on your dad and you don't know who your biological father is. And I'm sorry I fucked your wife, but hey, it was there. Why keep the whip zipped, right? But ya still got a great marriage and family goin' there. Was that your dysfunctional ass on 'Cheaters' over the weekend?

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Ya and when I fucked your wife she said said it felt so good. She really moaned a lot. She kept saying "OH MY GOD!" I wonder if she made different sounds when I fucked her than she does when you do her. NOT only do I have a big dig but I can work it like a jack hammer. Hey when your down there check it out...I really stretched her out..she WAS tight. But dude I am sorry for cumming in her mouth....I tried to hold it 'cause I did not want you to have to taste it....sorry man.

Anonymous

11-30-2004, 08:33 PM

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[QUOTE]
What's an ass movie man? http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/confused.gif

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Check a few posts back. Some dude made a movie and black-mailed his wife with it.

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Some funny shit man!! Go ass movie man!!!

Anonymous

11-30-2004, 08:50 PM

They would both die and the bodies would never be found. Plain and simple.
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Anonymous

11-30-2004, 09:32 PM

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If I caught my wife in an affair, I would demand that I either get to watch her next time or participate in a 3some. This would also open up the door for her to fulfill every fantasy that I have. If she refused, I'd file for divorce.

[/ QUOTE ]So...what you are saying is...that your fantasy is to suck another guys cock??? Um....wanna start with me?? http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/grin.gif

Anonymous

11-30-2004, 11:00 PM

[QUOTE]
[QUOTE]
First, anyone in a marriage or a serious relationship who cheats deserves the boot regardless if it's a guy or a chick.

If my wife had an affair, revenge would be the motivator. I think I'd pretend I didn't know about it, then hire a private "I" and wire my house and get some shit on tape. Then I'd have some leverage if she tries to take my kids, money, etc. and I'd threaten to send that shit to her parents, family, and friends!

First, if I found out who the guy was I'd break every bone in his hands, knock his teeth out, and bring out the ball-cutters.

Then I visit a good divorce and estate atty to get "financial advice." Details later...

As for my soon-to-be-ex-wife, I'd stay with her for a period of time, based on what the lawyers say, and make believe that I want to "rebuild" the marriage. If she's a working bitch, I'd keep our finances together saving aggressively. Any investments (i.e. stocks) would be in my name and beneficiaries would be my parents, kids, or some medical organizations. Then, after years of aggressive saving and transferring the house and utilities in her name, I'd put all of that money in off-shore accounts. Then I'd leave her as fast as it took her to get on her back.

Then again, I may need some time to sort out the details. http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/cool.gif

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you have seen too many movies mr now-it-all. it doesn't work that way w/ the finanaces. take it from someone who did just about all of the above after my wife cheated. still got burned for half of everything plus the house.
as far as kicking the other guy's ass. get over yourself. he banged your old lady. any asskicking is just you not dealing with it. go bang one of your wifes hot friends macho guy.

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Mr. "Now-it-all" here. JACKASS!!! It's "KNOW-it-all,' which in your case is "don't-know-AT-all!" And it was just a thought, douche-bag! I even said I'd need to work out the details!

I don't know where you get that I've seen too many movies. But based on that argument, though, I guess you've seen too many movies as well since you APPARENTLY did what I suggested and failed miserably. You STUPID FUCK!! You couldn't even get any of that right! Sounds like you're a 'mush' (meaning one big jinx - I figured I'd save you from digging out your high school dictionary!).

And as for kicking the other guy's ass, "get over [myself]?" WTF? You sound like a big PUSSY, which may be why your wife was no longer committed to your marriage. I'd kick the guy's ass for at least 3 reasons: 1. the guy banged a married broad, 2. I'd never hit a woman, but 3. my revenge would be getting everything from her and humiliating her ass in front of the courts and her family.

Do you not have any pride? I guess you don't. You're either a chick or, if you are a guy, you're very effeminate. Because anybody who'd curl up into a ball instead of doing some ass-kicking (both literally and figuratively) and then call me 'macho guy' deserves to take it in the can with no lube. Somebody fucks with you and something that's yours and you'd choose to be milquetoast about it? It's bad that the bitch went out looking to cheat and it's just as bad, if not worse, for someone else to oblige her. Kicking the guy's ass and cleaning your wife out sends the same message: that you're not to be fucked with or else a price will be paid. That's how I'd be dealing with it, so don't tell me I wouldn't be dealing with it! And it also tells the guy to think twice about boning a married woman again!

And for anyone who is faithful in a marriage/relationship and the other cheats/ has cheated, I wish you all the best in your recovery and healing. That's such a devastating experience, and the sooner you're on the road to recovery the better. Life is too short to be wallowing in misery, and you will miss out on other life-fulfilling opportunities! Hang in there, keep your head up, and take the time to take care of YOU!

Anonymous

11-30-2004, 11:03 PM

After dating for a number of years, but prior to engagement, my now wife broke up with me to give things a go with some other guy she met (we lived in different states at the time, and were doing the long distance thing). To this day, I don't know how much occurred before we broke up. At the time, she maintained she was being upfront with me before pursuing it. My interpretation = was on the verge or just starting to cheat.

It was devastating, as I had turned a corner of sorts and was getting ready to propose (yes, I previously was a bit of an arrogant ass before this and wouldn't commit, though she wanted to marry). Over the ensuing weeks, while she was having her fun, I was damn near catatonic thinking about her being with, and getting drilled by, some asswipe (she was smart, fun, and a former model). In retrospect, I'm sure my incapacitation gave her the security to party on with it. Anyway, I finally got myself together a bit, decided fuck this, and made clear to her I was moving on. That really snapped her head around and led to her wanting to reconcile etc. Although I was inclined to work through it, the problem was that, being in different states, I just didn't want to put myself through always wondering wtf was going on while I' wasn't around. Reluctantly, I was concluding it wasn't gonna happen.

As I'm slowly reaching my conclusion about the whole thing, she decides to tell the other guy it's over with him and she wants to reconcile and be with me. The guy's response? Two days later, after pleading his case with her and getting rejected, he kills himself.

The irony is that, as tragic as that act was, it is what paved the way for me to decide to try to work through things with her (among other things, I sure wasn't going to have to worry about wtf was going on in my absence). The reasons why I decided to work through it were: (i) we had been college sweethearts and had been through a lot together; (ii) I had been a bit of an arrogant ass with her previously (taking things for granted, putting her off, etc.), (iii) we weren't yet engaged, let alone married (though it was a committed relationship), and (iv) most of all, the other guy was dead.

We're married now and have been for 10 years. Things are great, and I seriously doubt she would ever cheat. But if she did, I would without a doubt end the marriage.

Two morals to this story:

1. My bro told me as this saga was unfolding that every guy at some point in his life really needs to get kicked hard square in the balls (he just was sorry it hadn't happened to me earlier in life -- I had pretty much sailed through everything up to this point).

2. For those of you who think that cheating won't hurt anyone...think again.

Anonymous

12-01-2004, 07:40 AM

Wow! Her pussy is so sweet, guys will kill themselves if they can't get it? Damn!

Anonymous

12-01-2004, 09:34 AM

[QUOTE]
[QUOTE]
[QUOTE]
First, anyone in a marriage or a serious relationship who cheats deserves the boot regardless if it's a guy or a chick.

If my wife had an affair, revenge would be the motivator. I think I'd pretend I didn't know about it, then hire a private "I" and wire my house and get some shit on tape. Then I'd have some leverage if she tries to take my kids, money, etc. and I'd threaten to send that shit to her parents, family, and friends!

First, if I found out who the guy was I'd break every bone in his hands, knock his teeth out, and bring out the ball-cutters.

Then I visit a good divorce and estate atty to get "financial advice." Details later...

As for my soon-to-be-ex-wife, I'd stay with her for a period of time, based on what the lawyers say, and make believe that I want to "rebuild" the marriage. If she's a working bitch, I'd keep our finances together saving aggressively. Any investments (i.e. stocks) would be in my name and beneficiaries would be my parents, kids, or some medical organizations. Then, after years of aggressive saving and transferring the house and utilities in her name, I'd put all of that money in off-shore accounts. Then I'd leave her as fast as it took her to get on her back.

Then again, I may need some time to sort out the details. http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/cool.gif

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you have seen too many movies mr now-it-all. it doesn't work that way w/ the finanaces. take it from someone who did just about all of the above after my wife cheated. still got burned for half of everything plus the house.
as far as kicking the other guy's ass. get over yourself. he banged your old lady. any asskicking is just you not dealing with it. go bang one of your wifes hot friends macho guy.

[/ QUOTE ]

Mr. "Now-it-all" here. JACKASS!!! It's "KNOW-it-all,' which in your case is "don't-know-AT-all!" And it was just a thought, douche-bag! I even said I'd need to work out the details!

I don't know where you get that I've seen too many movies. But based on that argument, though, I guess you've seen too many movies as well since you APPARENTLY did what I suggested and failed miserably. You STUPID FUCK!! You couldn't even get any of that right! Sounds like you're a 'mush' (meaning one big jinx - I figured I'd save you from digging out your high school dictionary!).

And as for kicking the other guy's ass, "get over [myself]?" WTF? You sound like a big PUSSY, which may be why your wife was no longer committed to your marriage. I'd kick the guy's ass for at least 3 reasons: 1. the guy banged a married broad, 2. I'd never hit a woman, but 3. my revenge would be getting everything from her and humiliating her ass in front of the courts and her family.

Do you not have any pride? I guess you don't. You're either a chick or, if you are a guy, you're very effeminate. Because anybody who'd curl up into a ball instead of doing some ass-kicking (both literally and figuratively) and then call me 'macho guy' deserves to take it in the can with no lube. Somebody fucks with you and something that's yours and you'd choose to be milquetoast about it? It's bad that the bitch went out looking to cheat and it's just as bad, if not worse, for someone else to oblige her. Kicking the guy's ass and cleaning your wife out sends the same message: that you're not to be fucked with or else a price will be paid. That's how I'd be dealing with it, so don't tell me I wouldn't be dealing with it! And it also tells the guy to think twice about boning a married woman again!

And for anyone who is faithful in a marriage/relationship and the other cheats/ has cheated, I wish you all the best in your recovery and healing. That's such a devastating experience, and the sooner you're on the road to recovery the better. Life is too short to be wallowing in misery, and you will miss out on other life-fulfilling opportunities! Hang in there, keep your head up, and take the time to take care of YOU!

[/ QUOTE ]

So you're still on your healing journey then.

Anonymous

12-01-2004, 09:39 AM

[QUOTE]
[QUOTE]
[QUOTE]
What a bunch of drama queens.

Wait, wait, let me check my calendar, yes, I am right, it is 2004, we did have a sexual revolution, we did invent the pill. Wow, for a minute I thought is was 1850 and Queen Vic was in charge.

No one here is speaking about the important things. How your relationship is going, the money, the kids, the time you spend together, your home (well one guy had his burned). So the old lady banged somebody when you weren't around. Like you always keep you whip zipped. TFB, If the two of you still have a good life together and kids to raise, let it go. The family is more important than your ego.

Hell, unless you have taken a DNA test, you don't know who your own Daddy is. I know I look nothing like mine. Just the way it is.

Say your sorry, and move on.

[/ QUOTE ]

I'm sorry your mom fucked around on your dad and you don't know who your biological father is. And I'm sorry I fucked your wife, but hey, it was there. Why keep the whip zipped, right? But ya still got a great marriage and family goin' there. Was that your dysfunctional ass on 'Cheaters' over the weekend?

[/ QUOTE ]

Ya and when I fucked your wife she said said it felt so good. She really moaned a lot. She kept saying "OH MY GOD!" I wonder if she made different sounds when I fucked her than she does when you do her. NOT only do I have a big dig but I can work it like a jack hammer. Hey when your down there check it out...I really stretched her out..she WAS tight. But dude I am sorry for cumming in her mouth....I tried to hold it 'cause I did not want you to have to taste it....sorry man.

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Stupid shit. I've been divorced from my one and only marriage for over 26 years. Never again. I like pets, but I don't need to own one. I can pet the neighbor's. You're a little touchy about someone claiming to have fucked your little wife though ain'tcha. Close to home Springerboy?

Anonymous

12-01-2004, 07:35 PM

[QUOTE]
[QUOTE]
[QUOTE]
[QUOTE]
First, anyone in a marriage or a serious relationship who cheats deserves the boot regardless if it's a guy or a chick.

If my wife had an affair, revenge would be the motivator. I think I'd pretend I didn't know about it, then hire a private "I" and wire my house and get some shit on tape. Then I'd have some leverage if she tries to take my kids, money, etc. and I'd threaten to send that shit to her parents, family, and friends!

First, if I found out who the guy was I'd break every bone in his hands, knock his teeth out, and bring out the ball-cutters.

Then I visit a good divorce and estate atty to get "financial advice." Details later...

As for my soon-to-be-ex-wife, I'd stay with her for a period of time, based on what the lawyers say, and make believe that I want to "rebuild" the marriage. If she's a working bitch, I'd keep our finances together saving aggressively. Any investments (i.e. stocks) would be in my name and beneficiaries would be my parents, kids, or some medical organizations. Then, after years of aggressive saving and transferring the house and utilities in her name, I'd put all of that money in off-shore accounts. Then I'd leave her as fast as it took her to get on her back.

Then again, I may need some time to sort out the details. http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/cool.gif

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you have seen too many movies mr now-it-all. it doesn't work that way w/ the finanaces. take it from someone who did just about all of the above after my wife cheated. still got burned for half of everything plus the house.
as far as kicking the other guy's ass. get over yourself. he banged your old lady. any asskicking is just you not dealing with it. go bang one of your wifes hot friends macho guy.

[/ QUOTE ]

Mr. "Now-it-all" here. JACKASS!!! It's "KNOW-it-all,' which in your case is "don't-know-AT-all!" And it was just a thought, douche-bag! I even said I'd need to work out the details!

I don't know where you get that I've seen too many movies. But based on that argument, though, I guess you've seen too many movies as well since you APPARENTLY did what I suggested and failed miserably. You STUPID FUCK!! You couldn't even get any of that right! Sounds like you're a 'mush' (meaning one big jinx - I figured I'd save you from digging out your high school dictionary!).

And as for kicking the other guy's ass, "get over [myself]?" WTF? You sound like a big PUSSY, which may be why your wife was no longer committed to your marriage. I'd kick the guy's ass for at least 3 reasons: 1. the guy banged a married broad, 2. I'd never hit a woman, but 3. my revenge would be getting everything from her and humiliating her ass in front of the courts and her family.

Do you not have any pride? I guess you don't. You're either a chick or, if you are a guy, you're very effeminate. Because anybody who'd curl up into a ball instead of doing some ass-kicking (both literally and figuratively) and then call me 'macho guy' deserves to take it in the can with no lube. Somebody fucks with you and something that's yours and you'd choose to be milquetoast about it? It's bad that the bitch went out looking to cheat and it's just as bad, if not worse, for someone else to oblige her. Kicking the guy's ass and cleaning your wife out sends the same message: that you're not to be fucked with or else a price will be paid. That's how I'd be dealing with it, so don't tell me I wouldn't be dealing with it! And it also tells the guy to think twice about boning a married woman again!

And for anyone who is faithful in a marriage/relationship and the other cheats/ has cheated, I wish you all the best in your recovery and healing. That's such a devastating experience, and the sooner you're on the road to recovery the better. Life is too short to be wallowing in misery, and you will miss out on other life-fulfilling opportunities! Hang in there, keep your head up, and take the time to take care of YOU!

[/ QUOTE ]

So you're still on your healing journey then.

[/ QUOTE ]

I never said I was divorced, and I'm not!

Anonymous

12-01-2004, 09:16 PM

I'd be O.K. if my wife had an affair as long as it wasn't with a fucking Canadian!! God-damned hosers!! Eh!

Anonymous

12-02-2004, 01:43 PM

[QUOTE]
[QUOTE]
[QUOTE]
[QUOTE]
[QUOTE]
First, anyone in a marriage or a serious relationship who cheats deserves the boot regardless if it's a guy or a chick.

If my wife had an affair, revenge would be the motivator. I think I'd pretend I didn't know about it, then hire a private "I" and wire my house and get some shit on tape. Then I'd have some leverage if she tries to take my kids, money, etc. and I'd threaten to send that shit to her parents, family, and friends!

First, if I found out who the guy was I'd break every bone in his hands, knock his teeth out, and bring out the ball-cutters.

Then I visit a good divorce and estate atty to get "financial advice." Details later...

As for my soon-to-be-ex-wife, I'd stay with her for a period of time, based on what the lawyers say, and make believe that I want to "rebuild" the marriage. If she's a working bitch, I'd keep our finances together saving aggressively. Any investments (i.e. stocks) would be in my name and beneficiaries would be my parents, kids, or some medical organizations. Then, after years of aggressive saving and transferring the house and utilities in her name, I'd put all of that money in off-shore accounts. Then I'd leave her as fast as it took her to get on her back.

Then again, I may need some time to sort out the details. http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/cool.gif

[/ QUOTE ]

you have seen too many movies mr now-it-all. it doesn't work that way w/ the finanaces. take it from someone who did just about all of the above after my wife cheated. still got burned for half of everything plus the house.
as far as kicking the other guy's ass. get over yourself. he banged your old lady. any asskicking is just you not dealing with it. go bang one of your wifes hot friends macho guy.

[/ QUOTE ]

Mr. "Now-it-all" here. JACKASS!!! It's "KNOW-it-all,' which in your case is "don't-know-AT-all!" And it was just a thought, douche-bag! I even said I'd need to work out the details!

I don't know where you get that I've seen too many movies. But based on that argument, though, I guess you've seen too many movies as well since you APPARENTLY did what I suggested and failed miserably. You STUPID FUCK!! You couldn't even get any of that right! Sounds like you're a 'mush' (meaning one big jinx - I figured I'd save you from digging out your high school dictionary!).

And as for kicking the other guy's ass, "get over [myself]?" WTF? You sound like a big PUSSY, which may be why your wife was no longer committed to your marriage. I'd kick the guy's ass for at least 3 reasons: 1. the guy banged a married broad, 2. I'd never hit a woman, but 3. my revenge would be getting everything from her and humiliating her ass in front of the courts and her family.

Do you not have any pride? I guess you don't. You're either a chick or, if you are a guy, you're very effeminate. Because anybody who'd curl up into a ball instead of doing some ass-kicking (both literally and figuratively) and then call me 'macho guy' deserves to take it in the can with no lube. Somebody fucks with you and something that's yours and you'd choose to be milquetoast about it? It's bad that the bitch went out looking to cheat and it's just as bad, if not worse, for someone else to oblige her. Kicking the guy's ass and cleaning your wife out sends the same message: that you're not to be fucked with or else a price will be paid. That's how I'd be dealing with it, so don't tell me I wouldn't be dealing with it! And it also tells the guy to think twice about boning a married woman again!

And for anyone who is faithful in a marriage/relationship and the other cheats/ has cheated, I wish you all the best in your recovery and healing. That's such a devastating experience, and the sooner you're on the road to recovery the better. Life is too short to be wallowing in misery, and you will miss out on other life-fulfilling opportunities! Hang in there, keep your head up, and take the time to take care of YOU!

[/ QUOTE ]

So you're still on your healing journey then.

[/ QUOTE ]

I never said I was divorced, and I'm not!

[/ QUOTE ]

I wasn't referring to your marital status, but rather your apparent lack of emotional intelligence/stability.

Anonymous

12-02-2004, 01:56 PM

[QUOTE]
[QUOTE]
[QUOTE]
[QUOTE]
What a bunch of drama queens.

Wait, wait, let me check my calendar, yes, I am right, it is 2004, we did have a sexual revolution, we did invent the pill. Wow, for a minute I thought is was 1850 and Queen Vic was in charge.

No one here is speaking about the important things. How your relationship is going, the money, the kids, the time you spend together, your home (well one guy had his burned). So the old lady banged somebody when you weren't around. Like you always keep you whip zipped. TFB, If the two of you still have a good life together and kids to raise, let it go. The family is more important than your ego.

Hell, unless you have taken a DNA test, you don't know who your own Daddy is. I know I look nothing like mine. Just the way it is.

Say your sorry, and move on.

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I'm sorry your mom fucked around on your dad and you don't know who your biological father is. And I'm sorry I fucked your wife, but hey, it was there. Why keep the whip zipped, right? But ya still got a great marriage and family goin' there. Was that your dysfunctional ass on 'Cheaters' over the weekend?

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Ya and when I fucked your wife she said said it felt so good. She really moaned a lot. She kept saying "OH MY GOD!" I wonder if she made different sounds when I fucked her than she does when you do her. NOT only do I have a big dig but I can work it like a jack hammer. Hey when your down there check it out...I really stretched her out..she WAS tight. But dude I am sorry for cumming in her mouth....I tried to hold it 'cause I did not want you to have to taste it....sorry man.

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Stupid shit. I've been divorced from my one and only marriage for over 26 years. Never again. I like pets, but I don't need to own one. I can pet the neighbor's. You're a little touchy about someone claiming to have fucked your little wife though ain'tcha. Close to home Springerboy?

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What is a springer boy? http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/confused.gif

Anonymous

12-02-2004, 06:46 PM

Geez you guys are judgemental...People cheat for different reasons, but ultimately it is just a symptom of a problem in the marriage.

People need people. So many marriages just end up in a partnership of two people just paying the bills together and raising kids. Eventually you need something more. There's nothing worse than being trapped in a marriage and feeling alone. Being legally bound to someone and sharing no affection.

Eventually you need a little affection...and eventually, in this industry where there are so many attractive people of like personalities, you will meet a situation that makes that possible.

It's a sad, unfortunate situation that usually isn't planned. Yeah there are those who are callous and cheat for the thrill of it or for an ego stroking, but I would venture to say that that group is not inundated by women.

The anger men show at their wives cheating has a lot more to do with ego than with love. You don't want to beat the other guy up because you love your wife so much, but because someone else has touched what was yours...that's ego. If it were love you'd be wondering why your wife felt so alone that she looked for comfort and affection from another man...and that is just sad.

It's unfortunate that there are so many unhappy marriages out there, but it is a reality. Don't be so quick to condemn people in search of a little happiness...even if it is selfish or artifical or temporary.

And if you do have a good marriage spend your time counting your blessings...don't waste your time judging people in situations in which you have no understanding.

Anonymous

12-02-2004, 09:58 PM

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Anonymous

12-02-2004, 10:27 PM

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They would both die and the bodies would never be found. Plain and simple.
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I agree, I would have to kill somebody and hide the body. Hope she doesn't go that route or "BANG"......one dead bitch!! http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/laugh.gif

(a remote spot, a deep hole and some lime is all you need.) http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/wink.gif

Anonymous

12-03-2004, 12:10 AM

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They would both die and the bodies would never be found. Plain and simple.
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I agree, I would have to kill somebody and hide the body. Hope she doesn't go that route or "BANG"......one dead bitch!! http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/laugh.gif

(a remote spot, a deep hole and some lime is all you need.) http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/wink.gif

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a remote spot, her deep hole, a couple of corona's and some limes is all i need to give your wife the pleasure she craves.

Anonymous

12-03-2004, 02:18 AM

Female here and I just wanted to expand on the whole emotional need for women/physical need for a man.

I once read that a guy's greatest fear is that a woman he is with has a physical affair with someone while a woman's greatest fear is that the man she is with had an emotional affair with someone.

This all simply goes back to nature and the fear that another man may impregnate his woman.

Anyhow, guys should be on the lookout for already developed emotional affairs between their woman and another man because a physical one is likely to happen shortly.

Meanwhile, women should be weary of their man's physical affair because an emotional one may be shortly on the horizon.

Anonymous

12-03-2004, 08:58 AM

I made a mistake and cheated on my husband. I have been trying for years to show him how much I regret it that he is everything to me. He says he loves me and wants me but I doubt that he will ever be able to have a life with me. I am writing this knowing all the crap that I am going to hear about how I got what I deserve yadda yadda... but I am writing to anyone who is even remotely, for any reason doing it or thinking about it DON'T! If you are not happy in your marriage and feel that you have explored every option then leave for everyone's sake. Your actions effect others whether you believe that or not. IT IS NOT WORTH IT! Not for emotional reason, physical reason whatever. It's just selfish.

Anonymous

12-03-2004, 09:22 AM

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I made a mistake and cheated on my husband. I have been trying for years to show him how much I regret it that he is everything to me. He says he loves me and wants me but I doubt that he will ever be able to have a life with me. I am writing this knowing all the crap that I am going to hear about how I got what I deserve yadda yadda... but I am writing to anyone who is even remotely, for any reason doing it or thinking about it DON'T! If you are not happy in your marriage and feel that you have explored every option then leave for everyone's sake. Your actions effect others whether you believe that or not. IT IS NOT WORTH IT! Not for emotional reason, physical reason whatever. It's just selfish.

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As a husband of a wife who cheated, you will be surprised to know that we can move past the cheat. My wife cheated within a year of being amrried. She was a wild child in college and afeter we were married, she went out with some college friends, got real drunk and ended up getting wild again. Fifteen years later she still regrets it, and I know that she does. She has been faithful since and has not gone out and partied with friends since. If she goes out with friends, and I am not with her, she doesn't drink. If I am with her, she does. She just doesn't want to make that mistake again. I know mistakes happen, and got over this long ago. She is tougher on herself than I am about the whole deal. It was a one time slip, and it hasn't repeated itself. There were several eyars where I had my ears up and eyes wide open, trying not to be suspicious, I will admit that. Over time, I got past that. She knows that if it ever happened again, it would be over, but she also knows she has a husband who can give some grace for mistakes. That has actually been a positive for the marriage. She has a greater trust for me now than she did when we were dating. I won't say it didn't hurt, it did. I won't say I wasn't angry, I was. I won't say that I don't sometimes think about it, I do. What I will say is that in it's context, it was a slip. It was not an ongoing affair, or anything that repeated itself. Were it that situation, I would definitely react differently and it would have been over.

Anonymous

12-03-2004, 10:15 AM

this is a great example of the two ways of cheating. this woman went out and got laid. plain and simple. she fucked up and she knows it. it was a one time thing (presumably) and didn't happen again. like this guy, i could forgive that over time. i would want to throw her out, get some ass myself, mentally torture her, etc. but i could move past it.

there is a huge difference in the above act and someone having a continued relationship with someone. something that is emotional and ongoing is pretty tough to forgive. it is a true break of the marriage on many levels. the person who does this is truly selfish and wants to remain in the marriage for various social and financial reasons but wants to get laid on the side for as long as they can. that is bullshit and deserves all of the shit that goes along w/ having an affair and getting caught.

Anonymous

12-03-2004, 08:08 PM

My wife recently cheated on me. I found out four days later and kept it under my hat for a few days. She is in the Navy, where Adultery is actually against the law. She had also screwed a guy who was of a lesser rank and that is concidered Fraternization which is also against the law. Since she has a higher rank she also broke a third law paraphrazed as Unbecomming of an Officer. I got the divorce papers started yesterday, and informed her Commanding Officer of the incident today. I brought in a couple of emails she wrote to a friend in which she bragged about it and asked advice on how to keep the fling on the side going. She called me up this afternoon asking why I didn't talk to her about it first. I asked her why she "Fucked the dude's brains out" (her exact words in an email. She is probably getting kicked out of the Navy now and may have to go to military prison too, and I feel that my revenge may have been a little too severe. Then I just reread the line stating "I don't feel guilty...I just want to do it again" from one of her emails. I figured that the divorce wouldn't be enough and I needed some vengance as well. She said all of the classic cheater lines: I was lonely because you work nights, I'm not happy, I was drunk, I'm confused. I started to feel sorry for her for a minute, but then remembered that not even 24 hours after she was with him, I went down on her, and we screwed twice before she even wrote the emails to her friend saying she wants to keep it going, isn't guilty, and wants to do it again. She feels really bad about it now, but that is only because she got caught and is going to get a Courts-Martial.

Anonymous

12-03-2004, 08:13 PM

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They would both die and the bodies would never be found. Plain and simple.
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I agree, I would have to kill somebody and hide the body. Hope she doesn't go that route or "BANG"......one dead bitch!! http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/laugh.gif

(a remote spot, a deep hole and some lime is all you need.) http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/wink.gif

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a remote spot, her deep hole, a couple of corona's and some limes is all i need to give your wife the pleasure she craves.

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She would most likely want the empty bottle instead of your little wee pencil dick......(Oh, we know how huge you are big guy, we know it drags on the ground....sure it does....) We know the truth...you get a hard on and it won't even reach your underpants......HA,HA,HA,HA, wee little one...... http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/blush.gif

Anonymous

12-03-2004, 08:13 PM

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My wife recently cheated on me. I found out four days later and kept it under my hat for a few days. She is in the Navy, where Adultery is actually against the law. She had also screwed a guy who was of a lesser rank and that is concidered Fraternization which is also against the law. Since she has a higher rank she also broke a third law paraphrazed as Unbecomming of an Officer. I got the divorce papers started yesterday, and informed her Commanding Officer of the incident today. I brought in a couple of emails she wrote to a friend in which she bragged about it and asked advice on how to keep the fling on the side going. She called me up this afternoon asking why I didn't talk to her about it first. I asked her why she "Fucked the dude's brains out" (her exact words in an email. She is probably getting kicked out of the Navy now and may have to go to military prison too, and I feel that my revenge may have been a little too severe. Then I just reread the line stating "I don't feel guilty...I just want to do it again" from one of her emails. I figured that the divorce wouldn't be enough and I needed some vengance as well. She said all of the classic cheater lines: I was lonely because you work nights, I'm not happy, I was drunk, I'm confused. I started to feel sorry for her for a minute, but then remembered that not even 24 hours after she was with him, I went down on her, and we screwed twice before she even wrote the emails to her friend saying she wants to keep it going, isn't guilty, and wants to do it again. She feels really bad about it now, but that is only because she got caught and is going to get a Courts-Martial.

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ouch.

Anonymous

12-03-2004, 08:15 PM

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My wife recently cheated on me. I found out four days later and kept it under my hat for a few days. She is in the Navy, where Adultery is actually against the law. She had also screwed a guy who was of a lesser rank and that is concidered Fraternization which is also against the law. Since she has a higher rank she also broke a third law paraphrazed as Unbecomming of an Officer. I got the divorce papers started yesterday, and informed her Commanding Officer of the incident today. I brought in a couple of emails she wrote to a friend in which she bragged about it and asked advice on how to keep the fling on the side going. She called me up this afternoon asking why I didn't talk to her about it first. I asked her why she "Fucked the dude's brains out" (her exact words in an email. She is probably getting kicked out of the Navy now and may have to go to military prison too, and I feel that my revenge may have been a little too severe. Then I just reread the line stating "I don't feel guilty...I just want to do it again" from one of her emails. I figured that the divorce wouldn't be enough and I needed some vengance as well. She said all of the classic cheater lines: I was lonely because you work nights, I'm not happy, I was drunk, I'm confused. I started to feel sorry for her for a minute, but then remembered that not even 24 hours after she was with him, I went down on her, and we screwed twice before she even wrote the emails to her friend saying she wants to keep it going, isn't guilty, and wants to do it again. She feels really bad about it now, but that is only because she got caught and is going to get a Courts-Martial.

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ouch.

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did she mention anything in the e-mails about making the guy a sandwich?? now that would be grounds for the court martial.

Anonymous

12-03-2004, 08:32 PM

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this is a great example of the two ways of cheating. this woman went out and got laid. plain and simple. she fucked up and she knows it. it was a one time thing (presumably) and didn't happen again. like this guy, i could forgive that over time. i would want to throw her out, get some ass myself, mentally torture her, etc. but i could move past it.

there is a huge difference in the above act and someone having a continued relationship with someone. something that is emotional and ongoing is pretty tough to forgive. it is a true break of the marriage on many levels. the person who does this is truly selfish and wants to remain in the marriage for various social and financial reasons but wants to get laid on the side for as long as they can. that is bullshit and deserves all of the shit that goes along w/ having an affair and getting caught.

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My friend, just picture your wife with her mouth wide open with a cock in it, loving every second of it. Then picture her doggy style, screaming some other guys name as she pants like a porn star and he's behind her smiling his face off. Then picture her as she is getting banged so hard yelling in ecstacy and dripping with sweat as she hits the high note. After the guy pulls out, shoots it all over her and then she comes home with a huge smile on her face.The guy leaves and tells his friends how he banged some horny bored married chick, and they all laugh at the ass who is married to her and can't keep her happy. Now you're stupid enough to think she's smiling becuase she missed you while she was out having a boring time with her friends. Now every now and then, she will think of that night while she rubs one out and how great it was compared to her boring married life with you. She'll tell you she feels bad and can't live with herself. Reality is, she would kill to get the chance to do it again but is afraid she'll lose her kids, the house and cushy life. (by the way, you can insert the thought of a male doing this if you are a girl....or gay)...Once a cheat, always a cheat. Remember that. http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/grin.gif

p.s- Next time you go down on her, tell us, how does that guys dick taste??
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Anonymous

12-03-2004, 08:51 PM

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this is a great example of the two ways of cheating. this woman went out and got laid. plain and simple. she fucked up and she knows it. it was a one time thing (presumably) and didn't happen again. like this guy, i could forgive that over time. i would want to throw her out, get some ass myself, mentally torture her, etc. but i could move past it.

there is a huge difference in the above act and someone having a continued relationship with someone. something that is emotional and ongoing is pretty tough to forgive. it is a true break of the marriage on many levels. the person who does this is truly selfish and wants to remain in the marriage for various social and financial reasons but wants to get laid on the side for as long as they can. that is bullshit and deserves all of the shit that goes along w/ having an affair and getting caught.

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My friend, just picture your wife with her mouth wide open with a cock in it, loving every second of it. Then picture her doggy style, screaming some other guys name as she pants like a porn star and he's behind her smiling his face off. Then picture her as she is getting banged so hard yelling in ecstacy and dripping with sweat as she hits the high note. After the guy pulls out, shoots it all over her and then she comes home with a huge smile on her face.The guy leaves and tells his friends how he banged some horny bored married chick, and they all laugh at the ass who is married to her and can't keep her happy. Now you're stupid enough to think she's smiling becuase she missed you while she was out having a boring time with her friends. Now every now and then, she will think of that night while she rubs one out and how great it was compared to her boring married life with you. She'll tell you she feels bad and can't live with herself. Reality is, she would kill to get the chance to do it again but is afraid she'll lose her kids, the house and cushy life. (by the way, you can insert the thought of a male doing this if you are a girl....or gay)...Once a cheat, always a cheat. Remember that. http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/grin.gif

p.s- Next time you go down on her, tell us, how does that guys dick taste??
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i posted the post the you replied to. you do have a valid point in terms of her wanting some strange again--especially if it was good. you have to weigh the consequences of the divorce vs. how you can live w/ some other dude, balls deep on your old lady. i think that if it were going to cost me significant cash and the house, etc., i would try to justify it by realizing that she had gotten laid before she married me and that this was just another dick that was in her. that may or may not work. also if she was sincerely sorry for what happened and realized how close she came to losing the life she knew, she may realize that cheating will never be the answer. she may be tempted but would know the consequences and may never again stray. lord knows, i am tempted every fucking day.
truthfully, if this happened, i would bang a few women myself before letting her back into the relationship. it would make it much easier to forgive her in the long run. guys need to even the score.

Anonymous

12-04-2004, 01:37 AM

I am a young married guy and if my wife cheated on me, buh-bye. I may have to pay a few bucks, but at least I would have my self respect and not have to think every night about sleeping next to a slut, wondering if the other guy's come was on my bed. If I were older and had to think about a mortgage and kids, maybe I would find a way to keep it together, but I would never treat my wife with respect again, and in the meantime, bang all the young pie I could find. There are some mistakes that you don't forgive, because there are some mistakes you just don't make. Sex is not like an auto accident. You have to find a place, get naked, etc. It takes a concious choice to do something stupid. Considering that I do not want to know what another guy's dick tastes like, and that my wife clearly knows that going into marriage, it had better not happen or she will be on the street. And that is the best case scenario.

Anonymous

12-04-2004, 01:47 AM

Anonymous

12-04-2004, 09:18 AM

Dude! All you gotta do is find a girl who looks just like her, nail her and then dump her!

Anonymous

12-04-2004, 09:19 AM

Dump her man!

Anonymous

12-04-2004, 09:19 AM

That chick is a show pony! What you need is a stallion, my friend! Walk with us and you walk tall!

Anonymous

12-04-2004, 09:20 AM

Walk tall my man!

Anonymous

12-04-2004, 09:20 AM

Bitches!

Anonymous

12-04-2004, 09:21 AM

Yo! We're gonna give that last guy a complex!

Anonymous

12-04-2004, 09:22 AM

Lloyd! We are going to a kegger and we are going to find you a hot babe! One hot lit babe, instantly, pronto!

Anonymous

12-04-2004, 10:23 AM

OK Guys,

What if your wife had an affair/fling after you screwing around on here multiple times and being forgiven? Would you be able to turn around and forgive HER? What is yours were not all one-nighters either?

Anonymous

12-04-2004, 10:33 AM

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OK Guys,

What if your wife had an affair/fling after you screwing around on here multiple times and being forgiven? Would you be able to turn around and forgive HER? What is yours were not all one-nighters either?

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I'd see if she wanted to fuck around together through swinging. That would be cool.

Anonymous

12-04-2004, 10:37 AM

Nope. Now let's hear the wacky rationale behind your double standards. Why is it different when a woman does it? Now, this is AFTER you have done it and been caught on several occasions.

Anonymous

12-20-2004, 01:43 PM

honestly, from the perspective of a guy whose wife cheated and confessed from guilty conscience , you're torn in between forgiveness and hatred. Reevalute your priorities consider what's left for you in the relationship and if you think you'll still be able to love her hey,work it out but 9 time out of 10 youl'd have to move on with your life and leave the cheater behind to their conscience.

Anonymous

12-20-2004, 01:48 PM

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Nope. Now let's hear the wacky rationale behind your double standards. Why is it different when a woman does it? Now, this is AFTER you have done it and been caught on several occasions.

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No double standard here. If my wife fucked around, we'd talk about it, and I'd tell her that I love her and want her to have great sex. I'd propose that we do this together. That way we'd get out more and make a whole new group of fun friends. It wouldn't bother me at all if she fucked around.

Anonymous

12-20-2004, 02:25 PM

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Nope. Now let's hear the wacky rationale behind your double standards. Why is it different when a woman does it? Now, this is AFTER you have done it and been caught on several occasions.

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No double standard here. If my wife fucked around, we'd talk about it, and I'd tell her that I love her and want her to have great sex. I'd propose that we do this together. That way we'd get out more and make a whole new group of fun friends. It wouldn't bother me at all if she fucked around.

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she must be a pig and you know nobody would want her.

Pablo

03-02-2006, 09:42 PM

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Nope. Now let's hear the wacky rationale behind your double standards. Why is it different when a woman does it? Now, this is AFTER you have done it and been caught on several occasions.

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The double standard is explained right here. http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/grin.gif

https://home.comcast.net/~jfmelnick/fruitcakelady.wmv

Anon911

03-02-2006, 09:48 PM

The wisdom of the Fruitcake Lady! Thanks Pablo, that's a riot!

rprrep

03-04-2006, 03:10 PM

Throw her out.

My wife had an affair while I was engaged with her. I was stupid enough to forgive her and go on with the marraige. I never trust her now, and am almost certain that she cheated early on in our marraige, but I have no proof. It's tough because in the end she can always just deny it, as long as you haven't walked in on them. Most women aren't stupid enough to do it in their own house.

If I had the choice to do it all over again, I would have dumped her. I may end up dumping her anyway. I do not love her, but we do get along and have similar philosophies of life (other than philosophy on infedelity).

I'd be better off without her for sure. IF we didn't have the kids already, I'd be gone. If I ever catch her - I am gone.

JitLover

03-12-2006, 06:18 PM

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Throw her out.

My wife had an affair while I was engaged with her. I was stupid enough to forgive her and go on with the marraige. I never trust her now, and am almost certain that she cheated early on in our marraige, but I have no proof. It's tough because in the end she can always just deny it, as long as you haven't walked in on them. Most women aren't stupid enough to do it in their own house.

If I had the choice to do it all over again, I would have dumped her. I may end up dumping her anyway. I do not love her, but we do get along and have similar philosophies of life (other than philosophy on infedelity).

I'd be better off without her for sure. IF we didn't have the kids already, I'd be gone. If I ever catch her - I am gone.

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Can I fuck her in the ass while you film it and put it on www.hotwifeblog.com (http://www.hotwifeblog.com)?? Pretty Please?????????

Jed_Clampett

03-12-2006, 10:20 PM

Dump the bitch OP, she is a whore!

Pablo

03-12-2006, 11:11 PM

Wait, you said while you were engaged. That's pre-marriage so it isn't cheating! If she's still good in bed, you guys can have sex and you can also have an affair.
It doesn't matter WHO you marry, after awhile the thrill will be gone so why not just go for some strange and get some good sex out of her. Maybe if she feels guilty you can talk her into a threesome? (2 girls and you!)

Anon911

03-12-2006, 11:51 PM

I'm not trying to sound preachy, but I think all infidelity is cheating. So, sneaking would be cheating. Open marriage would not. Withholding sex would be cheating. An agreed upon threesome would not. Also, I'm not sure what you mean, because the thrill has never gone. I've never gotten tired of having sex with the same woman. Sorry, never have. Maybe I'm weird, but with few exceptions, I've been having awesome sex about 3 times a week my whole marriage.

Pablo

03-13-2006, 12:42 AM

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I'm not trying to sound preachy, but I think all infidelity is cheating. So, sneaking would be cheating. Open marriage would not. Withholding sex would be cheating. An agreed upon threesome would not. Also, I'm not sure what you mean, because the thrill has never gone. I've never gotten tired of having sex with the same woman. Sorry, never have. Maybe I'm weird, but with few exceptions, I've been having awesome sex about 3 times a week my whole marriage.

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That's great if it works for both of you. Generally, there are 2 kinds of sex. The bellringer stuff goes away after about 2 years and is replaced by cuddly sex (still good but not bellringer). All I'm saying is I have no problem enjoying both and see no reason not to. You can play the blame name game (calling it cheating) if you insist but that's simply YOUR opinion. There's an old old saying - Be true to thine own heart only! In other words, I say, "Don't cheat yourself." And I'm not going to. I want a helping of it all. http://www.cafepharma.com/ubbthreads/images//graemlins/wink.gif