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Favoritism at work

Discussion in 'Dealing with Your Manager' started by Anonymous, May 8, 2011 at 7:41 PM.

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  1. Anonymous

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    How do you deal with a boss/supervisor who openly tells you and another coworker, "Neither one of you is my favorite. So-and-so is."

    I know favoritism exists in many forms in the corporate world, but what's the best way to deal with it?
     

  2. Anonymous

    Anonymous Guest

    Realize you aren't gonna get a break from this boss. At least the bum is honest.

    Maybe it's time to move on.
     
  3. Anonymous

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    I agree. I'll have a degree (bachelor's) hopefully by this time next year, and then I'm gone. There's no point in staying.
     
  4. Anonymous

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    Every manager has favorites and... here's the surprise.... there is absolutely nothing wrong wth that! Your response should have been, what makes them your favorite? You missed a chance to find out exactly how this manager sees you and what they value most in an employee.

    Having been there as a manager, you favor people who work hard, take limited direction and run with it, and build assignments into something beyond bare minimum expectations without constant affirmation, hand holding, or being given direction over and over. You favor those who are willing to take a stand against things they feel are wrong, or going the wrong direction, but do it in private or in smaller and appropriate settings. Good managers DON'T favor kiss ups and those who blindly agree with everything, but also don't favor those who whine and complain about things beyond the manager's control or ability to even comment on. You favor those who make you and the company look good, who get praise from customers. You favor those who turn in the obnoxious paperwork on time without reminders and without whining, and who do it well instead of just with a check the box attitude. Especially valuable are those that know it is a pain in the rear but essential for communication of value and what we are accomplishing.

    I had one guy complain endlessly that I played favorites and didn't give him high profile projects that would give him exposure and experience. I told him exactly why - the simpler, lower profile things he was asked to do were either not done or done poorly. No way I was putting my neck on the line by giving him something high profile, letting upper management think this was what my team was all about.

    Now, your manager could just be a prick and wants yes men and ass kissers but I find this is not the norm. Next time, deal with it better and ask them why so and so is their favorite, or what you are missing in their view/
     
  5. Anonymous

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    Every manager has favorites and... here's the surprise.... there is absolutely nothing wrong wth that! Your response should have been, what makes them your favorite? You missed a chance to find out exactly how this manager sees you and what they value most in an employee.
    That's one way to look at it. Her attitude, though, put me off. She didn't explain why he was her favorite but I know they've worked together a long time.

    Having been there as a manager, you favor people who work hard, take limited direction and run with it, and build assignments into something beyond bare minimum expectations without constant affirmation, hand holding, or being given direction over and over.
    Problem is, there are two employees in the department like that right now and the manager does absolutely nothing about it. She doesn't take them as her favorites, but she doesn't correct their behavior, either.

    You favor those who are willing to take a stand against things they feel are wrong, or going the wrong direction, but do it in private or in smaller and appropriate settings. Good managers DON'T favor kiss ups and those who blindly agree with everything, but also don't favor those who whine and complain about things beyond the manager's control or ability to even comment on.
    My manager loves butt kissers. There have been at least two people in the department like that and it sickens the rest of us.

    You favor those who make you and the company look good, who get praise from customers. You favor those who turn in the obnoxious paperwork on time without reminders and without whining, and who do it well instead of just with a check the box attitude. Especially valuable are those that know it is a pain in the rear but essential for communication of value and what we are accomplishing.
    I wish my boss would read and understand and apply this.

    I had one guy complain endlessly that I played favorites and didn't give him high profile projects that would give him exposure and experience. I told him exactly why - the simpler, lower profile things he was asked to do were either not done or done poorly. No way I was putting my neck on the line by giving him something high profile, letting upper management think this was what my team was all about.
    My problem isn't like that, but I wish management would do something about the slackers in the office who only want to play on the Internet all day and not work.

    Now, your manager could just be a prick and wants yes men and ass kissers but I find this is not the norm. Next time, deal with it better and ask them why so and so is their favorite, or what you are missing in their view/
    I might just try this. Thanks.
     
  6. Anonymous

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    Pamela L. Simpkins got fired from Merck and Novo. Harvard degree and no better than trailer park trash. Everyone who has had to work with her over the past 15+ years had the worst professional experience. Talk about these types of managers who think they are exempt from the rules, have no values, and no regard for people except those that are hand selected as the "chosen ones." and pit them against other people just to see who is left standing at the end. These games are destructive for business and to people. This woman is mental and should not be intergrated with the human race. Too bad for her family and her students at Rutgers who have also been favored or disliked because of religion or color.
     
  7. Anonymous

    Anonymous Guest

    You are a loser..Anonymous posting, using names to bitch and whine..

    I don't know much but I know this; you lose. You lose at home, work, life, family... Loser.

    Be better in life.. Move on, focus on the important things.. This site is a cancer and all you do is feed it..
     
  8. Anonymous

    Anonymous Guest

    Don't get so worked up about it. Just relax. Take your manager aside and tell him how it makes you feel. If you can't get thru to him just offer up a great BJ. You will soon be his new fav!!!
     
  9. Anonymous

    Anonymous Guest

    They have their favorites for a reason...they always want something so get whatever you can in return...work it girl...but get your proof, cell phones are great...they hold all the text messages, have cameras, videos...I think you know what I am telling you. Protect yourself and trust no one!
     
  10. I checked her out on Linkedin. I see that she is now working at Janssen. She has accomplished quite a lot for herself. Maybe people should stop being envious and improve themselves.
     
  11. Anonymous

    Anonymous Guest

    The above is true you can do all the above and more to your advantage!!!
     
  12. Anonymous

    Anonymous Guest

    I am not willing to sleep with the Chip or Clay to get a manager job. I would rather poke my eye out.
     
  13. Anonymous

    Anonymous Guest

    I'll bet you would rather poke Chip or Clay in the butt!