Husband's PORN Habit

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  1. farmaone

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    My husband is destroying our marriage, again, with his porn habit. Its bad enough we went through his cheating scandal but now I am suffering through a porn habit of nightly porn additions. Some of the porn and nudity appears to be stars that look like the whore he cheated on me with. He ain't no stud in the bed for sure and what he doesn't know is before we were married I did have great lovers. And before any of you go there I am not a pig, far from it. He actually let himself go. Good thing for my toys. I am starting to hate him for all he has done to us and our family. Help!
     

  2. libluvsbukkake

    libluvsbukkake Well-Known Member

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    Honey, I told you that you could go fuck others guys, no biggie. Why don't you come on up and watch it with me and we can imitate what we see on the screen.
     
  3. Wonka

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    Is your ass within acceptable limits? Re-reading your post, I assume it is.

    Are you keeping his cock sucked on a regular basis?

    The key to a man's heart is not through his stomach, it's through keeping his cock worked and that ass looking right.
     
  4. Fucktard

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    Several questions:

    1. Are you two having sex at all? If so, is it good?

    2. Are you turned off by him letting himself go, so you are avoiding sex?

    It may be as simple as him not getting it regularly, and rather than cheat again, he's jerking off to the porn.

    Being that he's doing it nightly makes me think that he may have a porn "addiction" (don't know that much about this disorder). Especially if you 2 are having sex and he's still watching porn every night.

    3. Have you confronted him about it? What does he say?

    Dr. Fucktard is in session.
     
  5. Vagitarian

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    It's time for my prostate exam. I'll be doc's first patient. I hope she has nice long fingernails.
     
  6. Vagitarian

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    Why don't you try watching some with him? Sytart with the Playboy Channel, women seem to find it acceptable. Order it for a month and watch it together. If that doesn't work, go see Libs....
     
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    Honey, too bad the thread about cheating spouses was pulled. You could have learned a lot from that. If you can't beat him, join him. Or try something different. Or just leave him if he's not worthy of you.
     
  8. Drug Dumper

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    You guys are really cracking me up. Especially you, FT.
     
  9. Get a rocket and be done with it. Women love porn too. Just ask Gorgeous Gams.
     
  10. libluvsbukkake

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    I miss our baby so fucking much.
     
  11. GorgeousGAMS

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    Porn, dirty stories, dress up, young lovers. . . yep, we love it all. Look, sixty percent of first marriages fail and more than seventy percent of second. More than sixty percent in marriage admit to being unfaithful and we do not know about all those that live together. I agree with FT and the others: if he or you is not getting sex regularly, something is wrong in the marriage. Men who do not get it at least once a week and a good BJ too, are going to end up going somewhere else for it. Sorry your hubby let himself go. I know that feeling and the porn issue. Our solution, I took a young lover and let him have his porn. Guess what? I suddenly did not care so much about how he looked and he was very interested in my "stories," which created a demented match made in heaven. Now we all get to have our cake and eat it too.

    However, it does sound like he has an addiction which will not be easy to get rid of unless you both replace it. Anyone who is looking at porn every night is not busy enough. Can you get him to go to the gym or for a walk with you? Sounds like you both have some talking to do and need to do something fun together. While what worked for my marriage probably won't work for others, we do have a lot of fun now and I find myself far more tolerant of "bad" behavior. LOL
     
  12. libluvsbukkake

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    I love this woman!!!!!!! I finally told mine that she really doesn't have to worry about sex anymore, because we aren't and never have been into each other. She wants to do the counseling thing, and the truth may come out then. That said, I can only handle my lover 2-3 times per week now, and it's done wonders for MY porn addiction. Life is too short for shitty sex.
     
  13. GorgeousGAMS

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    Thanks, Libs. A word to the wise: Do NOT under any circumstances talk about your lover to your wife at counseling unless you are prepared to divorce. I do not think women take that sort of thing well at all especially since your lover is such a hottie. . . even if your wife confesses some dark secret or her own. I do not know what you are going to do now that you said it. Does she know how badly she needs to lose weight and clean herself up? Fat girls can be pretty and smell good. It just depends on what they wear and how they put themselves together. I have told guys that I was not going "there" because they had hairy balls that smelled like ass. Why don't you just tell her?
     
  14. libluvsbukkake

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    I have, and it's like I am telling her that she has three heads. I have explained to my baby, that if I admit her existence, I go from a 50/50 split to 40/60. She ran her own place so she gets it. Things are very workable right now. I would stay married to my wife, and be extremely discreet, if she were cool with my having my baby on the side. But, that won't happen.
     
  15. Drug Dumper

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    Is 10% of the split really worth you being so miserable? Only 10% -- hells bells, that's nothing if you really want to be free.
     
  16. libluvsbukkake

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    Yes it is.
     
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    wow There is NO amount of $$ that can dictate that kind of punishment for me.

    So, even though you love your side piece, she isn't worth a measly 10%? If she were to give up her lifestyle for YOU, it would be more than 10% of what she's worth.
     
  18. libluvsbukkake

    libluvsbukkake Well-Known Member

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    Well, I have kids too, so that's a concern. Look, I take good care of my baby too. Some guys buy Corvettes and Harleys, I have woman that gives me no shit and is an amazing and giving lover. I do help her out and in fact did so just today.
     
  19. Drug Dumper

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    I know -- just musing on the keyboard. I guess I've been through enough that $$ won't dictate my actions when it comes to my happiness. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to have more $$ in the bank, etc., and I've had my fair share of crappy times, but if there are a few things I've learned:

    1. One can live on a helluva lot less than what they have become accustomed to.

    2. The is no amount of $$ that will keep me in an unhappy situation.

    Hey, it's all good. Whatever floats your boat....
     
  20. GymRat

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    Totally agree!

    And to the OP: If your husband is choosing porn over you and your family...it's time to think about getting out. Maybe if he realizes what he would lose, he would get help and keep his family intact.